Question about Bedside Manner - page 2
I am a student about to enter a nursing program, and I am worried about my bedside manner. Most of my classmates are outgoing and always friendly, while I am more reserved and somewhat socially awkward. Sometimes I feel I say the... Read More
- 0Nov 19, '12 by StoogesfanI am a very shy person and that was the thing that concerned me most starting my journey into nursing school. I have just finished my first med surg clinical today, and honestly I found I was much more comfortable touching and talking to my clients than I thought. My advice would be to just attempt and give it time. It really does take practice for some people. You sound like you really do care, and if a nurse is caring then I think it shows and the client respond to that.
- 0Nov 19, '12 by HeyYogaGirlI'm a very outgoing person but oddly enough I really relate to your post! I want to use touch to help my patients but sometimes putting my hand on a tiny little shoulder of one of my thinner female patients feels awkward! Then I realized that it's because I am used to putting my hand on my boyfriend's big muscley shoulder and something throws me off about the way it feels. So what works for me is practice. I see you tried practicing with your fam which is a good idea, but I would try practicing with toddlers...in a completely appropriate way of course! I volunteer in my church's nursery and I get so much practice consoling tiny shoulders hehe it really helps! And kids don't get awkward like adults do. If you don't console them the right way, they don't act like you are weird or anything. I hope this isn't coming off creepy, I just find that it helps me to practice with kids...gosh it is sad how you have to worry about like everything you say being misconstrued nowadays. Another thing I try is to add soft touch when I am already touching the patient for a procedure. Like when I am putting the BP cuff on, I gently put a hand on their shoulder and arm and tell them they can relax their arm. This works for me because I take vitals every day so it's a good time to practice, and also it makes sense because they do need to relax their arms! Hope this helps! And hopefully we both can get used to this soon
- 0Nov 20, '12 by LlawverThe more comfortable you get with your skills the easier it will be. As a few other people said, a lot of patients are uncomfortable with you touching them too much. You don't have to be loud and boisterous to be a great nurse. The most important thing you can do as far as "bedside mannor" is listen to them. People can tell the difference between nurses who care and those who don't...and you don't need to be loud and outgoing to demonstrate that. There will be times you have to be assertive....but know how to choose your battles. For instance I had a client who absolutely refused to take a bath. I didn't push the issue because if someone isn't going to co operate than it's just gonna be hard for you both. I've also had patients in the past who were perfectly capable of doing things for themselves but insisted I did it for them. A good example...I had an overweight client who was using the bedside commode and absolutely refused to wipe his own rear end. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem whatsoever assisting someone who needs it. But there was no call for that. I simply got him a few wash rags, pulled his curtain and told him to press the call light when he was done so I could empty his commode. I also had a client with staph on his scrotum who wanted me to apply his powder. He was young and in good health and there was no call for it. So I gave him the powder to keep at bedside (after checking the order) and left it at that. I could go on and on. The point is to trust your judgement, always listen to your patients, and don't be afraid to say no. Good luck to you