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- Feb 3 by SaoirseRNAlso, remember that clinical placements rely on subjective reports/feedback from other humans. Sometimes, while we may not be doing a "bad" job, we aren't what somebody expected.
When I was a student, I preferred to, in many cases, figure out the answers to my own questions myself, either by reading the chart or looking things up in books. I would usually confirm my findings with my preceptor, or if I could not figure it out I would ask. Apparently, because I did a lot of the work myself, my preceptors felt I wasn't asking enough questions. They thought I should be asking way more than I was, so that got brought up to my instructor and I was spoken to about it.
Sometimes, you just have to listen, accept what is being said with grace, thank them, do as you are asked, and move on. School will end, and as long as you aren't causing harm, you won't have to jump through those hoops forever.
Because we are all different, we aren't going to fit perfectly into what each person feels defines a good student.
- Feb 4 by HouTxI completely agree with GrnTea's response. I (& other ancients) are more likely to have grown up with the "you want something to cry about?" parenting model. We received critical feedback on a regular basis, from an astonishing number of sources. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to run smack into this for the first time when you are older... and in a much more high-stakes situation. I have worked with many brand new, very young nurses who dissolve into tears and lose all self-confidence when this happens.
Learning detachment is an important survival skill in any adult endeavor. This is the ability to adopt objectivity when you need it. This means deliberately pushing aside your emotional response (OMG, this patient is someone's mother and she is dying) for a logical & objective one (OK, this is v-tach, I need to shock now). It takes practice, but anyone can do it. Receiving critical feedback is one of those times - focus on the information you are receiving and deliberately step away from the emotional content. This is not a value judgement about you as a person. It is just about your performance and skill. Take the time to reflect on what is being said. Make sure you clearly understand. Ask questions - "So, if I had done X instead of Y, it would have been a more appropriate intervention?" Ask for help "I think I chose X because I am not as familiar with Y - can you recommend a way for me to improve in this area?"
In the meantime, just bite your tongue if you find yourself making any excuses for inadequate performance. Erase "But" from your vocabulary. Take deep breaths and be very conscious of your body language and facial expressions. YOU CAN DO THIS!