Sooo... I know nothing ever goes exactly according to plan, but as a normal human being I'm kind of trying to figure out what I want to do with my life and in what order, so I know what I need to do and when to try to make those things happen. You never know what curves life will throw at you, but I'd like to have a general "plan" to run by and I'm trying to decide what such a plan might look like for me.
I'm 21, married, and starting nursing school
this fall. My nursing program is three years and at the end I will have a bachelor's degree in nursing. (I'll graduate in June of 2014 - and I'll be 24.) I want to go on to midwifery school, before which I will need to have, at the very least, a year of experience in labor and delivery nursing as an RN. But from what I hear, it is basically impossible to get into the labor and delivery specialty as a new grad, so I will, in all likelihood, work for an unspecified length of time in another area of nursing before I can squeeze my way into a L&D position. This is certainly not a bad thing, it'll help me be a more well-rounded nurse, just means I have to consider that extra time in a non-L&D position into my planning (could be a year, could take three!).
ALSO, my husband and I want children at some point. I would like to have three children, if I am able. And because studies have shown it to be better on mother and baby's bodies, I want to wait at least a year and half after giving birth to start trying to conceive again. I really like the idea of being completely done with all school before having kids, but I also want to be done having kids before I'm 35, which might not happen with a probable 3-5 years between the end of nursing school and starting a two-year midwifery program to become a CNM.
So I'm considering having kids after nursing school. I'll be 24 and we'll have been married for 4 years, which means we'll have had time to just be "us" before adding in the children. I'll only be working when they're young, not work AND school - at least until the youngest is maybe 4 or 5 (if I aim to go back to midwifery school when I'm about 35). My concern, though, is being in school with three kids. Do you think it would be way too hard? Would it be better since they might be a little older by then?
I do like the idea of having more years of experience under my belt before moving on to advance practice. Not that I'm worried that I couldn't do it, it would just be nice to feel so super-comfortable with all the things I already know, that I could dedicate my time and energy to learning the new things in midwifery school. Of course, going to school with children at home still seems daunting to me, especially because I like to put a lot of effort into knowing and learning everything really well....
Not sure. I do have lots of time to decide, but if you have any input or advice for me based on what I wrote or if you could tell me what you're planning or have done as far as balancing school and kids, etc. feel free to chime in! Thanks for reading!