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Hey! First post here! My wife and I planned to attend a nursing school together. I was accepted into the RN and LPN prgram. She was accepted into the LPN program. She had applied for the RN, but... Read More
Aug 9, '05Quote from hotdog19dHey! First post here! My wife and I planned to attend a nursing school together. I was accepted into the RN and LPN prgram. She was accepted into the LPN program. She had applied for the RN, but didn't make it. I don't know if I should attend the LPN with her so we can attend together and help each other study/push each other through, or if I should do the RN. Any advice????
Dude, do the RN program. RN programs are not easy to get into, and if you give up your spot now it may be a long time before you get another opportunity. Your wife can try for the RN program at another school after she's done with the LPN.
Aug 9, '05I would tell her that it will be perfectly normal...I am the boss at home and now I will be the boss at work also. And then duck to avoid getting hit with any heavy objects that may be coming your way. Oh and by the way...if she doesn't throw something at you...look behind you cause my wife will. :chuckle
On a serious note...like mentioned start your RN, you can study together and then you can help her bridge from LPN to RN later on...
Good luck, dave
Aug 9, '05My suggestion may be completely impossible, but it's all I can come up with.
1) How hard was it to get into the RN program?
2) What kept your wife from getting in?
3) What are her chances of getting in next time?
4) How often do they start you program (2X year, 1X year)
I would go to the school and find out your chances of postponing your entry for the next go around (with a guarantee you will get your seat). This could give your wife the time to get in with you.
It never hurts to ask. It maybe impossible, but if you only have to postpone one semester and they would let you enter FOR SURE in the next semester, why not give the wife another shot at acceptance and go together?
Then again, this may be something the school wont do.
If it comes down to needing to decide now, go for the RN. Your wife will definately need your encouragement. I too would want to go through it together. Not because I couldnt go it alone, but because my hubby is truely my best friend and it would be great to be going through it together! You said you could apply to other schools. What are the drawbacks of that? (entrance wait, distance, cost???)
Dont give up your opportunity, but I understand that some of us married people want to share true life changing experiences while we're on the "same page".
I would love it if my hubby went through the program with me. I love to see a grown man cry!! heehee
Aug 9, '05Quote from skm-nursiepoohagree with this.what if your wife fails lpn school despite your attending it with her? let's just turn things around here...what would you do if you fail lpn school & your wife doesn't....will she be willing to give-up her quest in becoming a nurse? i should think not....so why should you sacrifice becoming a rn just because you don't want to hurt your wife's feelings/ego?
take the advice everybody has been telling you...obtain the rn...especially if this is your dream! your wife is a big girl & can manage the lpn course without you having to forfit your opportunity. after all...you've already got into both schools now...don't blow the rn program off & wait...then not get in. wouldn't that be a b&tch if say you both go through lpn school & apply to the rn program...but your wife is the one to get in & you don't! ten to one....don't think your wife is going to decline her acceptance into the rn program to stroke your wounded ego/pride. your best bet is to go for the rn now & get it done with while the opportunity strikes.
anywho....good luck with either program ~ cheers,
go for the rn.
Aug 9, '05If your ultimate goal was RN then go for that. Meanwhile she can do the LPN, and later go back for it. Good luck and welcome to the site.
Aug 9, '05Quote from hotdog19dYou sound like a very young couple. You can still encourage each other even though you are in separate programs. In my school they separated the couples (only 3) anyway. They were not allowed to do the same clinical, and where I work you would be in different dept or shifts.My wife wants me to do the LPN with her, because she feels that she needs the encouragement to make it throught the program.
I would not turn down the RN spot.
Aug 9, '05Why don't you proceed on with the RN program and she goes with LPN. When you're done with RN and it comes time for her to bridge over to RN, you will still end up helping her. No sense in both of you getting tied up for 2 years together. And besides she'll have a jump start on the program by learning from you -- and may not have to buy books all over again for her upcoming RN program.
Aug 9, '05Quote from hotdog19dIs she really upset that you got in and she didnt...does she have some sort of inferiorty complex about it? That is the only reason I can see why someone would want to hold another back! Encourage her along the way, but don't sell yourself short. I wouldn't count on both of you being accepted into the bridge program together...then what would you do? Go back for 2 more yrs to become an RN? That just doesn't make logical sense- to me at least.On the other, it seems sort of like a waste for me to stop short, esepecially with the school only accepting 4 LPN's to bridge. I'm afraid that if we both start the LPN programs, thats what we'll stay for the rest of our lives.
Definately enter the RN prgm, and don't think twice about it. I'd be very concerned if your wife gives you problems about it. It's your future you're talking about.
Aug 10, '05Also consider the fact that if you both try to bridge to RN, you will actually be competing with her for the spots. :stone
Aug 10, '05Quote from hotdog19dwow, what a dilemma. personally, i would start the rn program & encourage her to strengthen her own application for next year.Hey! First post here! My wife and I planned to attend a nursing school together. I was accepted into the RN and LPN prgram. She was accepted into the LPN program. She had applied for the RN, but didn't make it. I don't know if I should attend the LPN with her so we can attend together and help each other study/push each other through, or if I should do the RN. Any advice????
Oct 5, '05Just wondering how things are going, if you started school, and what you decided. Good luck