Losing Friends....

MissKitty09 · Oct 9, 2008

I'm going through the same thing!! I know the friends I have now will always be there, but they just don't understand why I study so much. I feel like I'm neglecting them because I am not able to hang out with them like I used to. They ask "why don't you take a day off?".. I wish I could! I spend all my time during the week studying because on Saturday and Sunday I work 7a-7p as a nurse tech. I'm currently in the semester that is known for over half of the class failing every year, so I gotta step it up ten notches so I can get through it and graduate next May!

racergirl617 · Dec 3, 2008

The most important thing in your life is you... or at least it is when you are in school making a better life for yourself. "Friends" that get upset at you are not your real friends. REAL friends will be understanding and be supportive of you and accept the fact that you will hang out with them when you are able to. Since I've started nursing school, my outside social life has diminished greatly, I go to school all week and work all weekend. My social life consist of talking and going to lunch and studying with my classmates & being at work. I have no time to go out and party, nor do I wish to. I have my priorities in life, and as you get older your friends will natuarally change. What is hard is keeping up your relationship! Both my bf and I are in school, I'm in nursing and he's in law school. Sometimes that just really sucks but we have an understanding with each other... and the fact that I'm in CA and he's in Washington DC studying makes it much easier to concentrate on school. The temptation to spend time with him is there, but since it's physically impossible, it makes it easier. And I just have to say thank goodness for the internet, bc that is our primary method of communication and its nice to have it on when we are both studying and can see each other. It's not the same... but makes it soooo much better. Also the time we spend together during breaks are much more special

xlilchatonx · Dec 3, 2008

Ditto to what everyone else said.

And oh man, I wish I could let you listen to this one CD I have because honestly... it would explain PERFECTLY for you what is going on.

Okay basically to quote "Your standard of living is a direct reflection of your peer group" -Anthony Robbins. Basically .. if you have higher standards for yourself and your friends standards aren't as high, a few things will happen. One, they will try to tear you down because they won't to feel significant in your life and that they're not feeling they're doing as great, so they want to bring you down ("it's easiest to be the tallest building in the city, if you tear down all the others around you") or you leave and begin to develop a peer group with standards that are similar to yours. ..Or .. you will lower your standards to theirs (don't do this!!)

This is why I don't care that I don't really have any friends right now because I KNOW that this will happen because it's growing up and like someone else mentioned it's a reflection of your personal growth. People are going to be prioritizing at this point in our lives (you're only 2 years older than me) and we're going to be going off in our own ways, don't worry about not having friends right now, you WILL gain friends for life that will match you perfectly =)

:icon_hug: :up:

When you said that one thing.. it reminded me of the song "Lose yourself"

"Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted- One moment

Would you capture it or just let it slip?"

DJ Bertrix · Dec 3, 2008

I have lost a few friends along the way through nursing school, but the true ones stuck around and were understanding. I was pretty sad about it, but in the long run I just got way too busy to even think about it. I've made more friends in the program who can relate to the same situations and I'm sure you will too! Good luck.

May2009 · Dec 3, 2008

School started in August, and ever since then, I have not been able to do as much with friends. I am too busy studying! I hate it, but I know I what I HAVE to do. I feel like my friends are not being very understanding, and they get upset when I say I can't hang out. I don't do this all the time, but mostly on the 2 weeks before I have an exam. Now, I am kinda feeling left out. I just don't know what to do?
Does anyone else feel like they are losing friends, r/t nursing school?

Yea I can relate...it seems that all of my "old" friends are in other majors that require less time to be successful. So when they call me with all these plans to go places I have to turn them down. Mainly, because I have no free time on my hands and secondly because Im so broke! They usually reply with "Dang all you do is study"! Of course I too feel left out because these have been my friends for years and they are truly precious to me, it's just that I have to prioritize...and school comes first! On the bright side I will say that being in nursing school allows you to build some incredible friendships with your nursing classmates. So now my days are spent with "new" friends who totally understand everything I am going thru. We spend HOURS together from studying, eating, being on campus, on the phone, praying, working long nights on the weekends, web surfing, and having a drink when time allows. I have been fortunate enough to meet my only "big sis" in nursing school. So yeah I miss the "old" ones, and we do hook up every now and then..but I wouldnt trade my "sis" for the world. We have survived the battles of nursing school together...and that's the greatest:redpinkhe