We have somebody just like that in our nursing program. She totally tries my patience. I pride myself on being civil to everyone, even if they aren't my best friends, but she really pushes my buttons. She is nowhere to be found in clinical, she can't do anything independently, she's always asking *me* for help, and when we discuss what we want to do after graduation, her responses always mimic mine. It is so not flattering. Its just irksome. She has no personality.
Oh, and did I mention she cries at every clinical conference because she feels "inadequate"? And her academic grades are so good and she just can't get it in clinical?
Ok I know I sound really heartless but....get over it. If you have a problem adjusting to clinical, talk to your instructor, get your feet wet, get the freak away from the nurses station and the patient's chart and go see your patient. We have actually found this woman hiding in the stairwell. She is straight up dangerous in clinical. She had a patient in the nursing home who fell out of bed and was *lying on the floor* for God knows how long. She once had a patient that desatted to 65% while she was hanging out leafing through the chart at the nurses station. What happened? I found our instructor, I talked to the primary nurse. I am not so heartless that I would let a patient actually be endangered because of her behavior but I don't go out of my way to help her, either.
How she has muddled through thus far, I have no idea. I can't believe she had a satisfactory evaluation. She is just someone who brings down the whole group.
We got split into different rotations this semester. Guess who is with me? Yep, Ms Codependent herself. I've given up trying to be nice to her, I just try not to bother with her.
I know this is probably a little different than your situation but sometimes these people are just energy vampires. I do my best to perform well in clinical, help those that genuinely need it and may actually be able to do something independently, and not concern myself with her. We've even gone to the instructors and discussed our concerns and they just blow us off, saying it's only the first portion of the program and she has no experience, so its going to take her longer.
Anyway, I know this post made me sound like a big old bytch, but that's my .02. Create a positive experience for yourself out of nursing school
, and if this person doesn't fit into it, you can't make her behave the way you'd like her to. Spend less energy on her and more energy on yourself and your peers.