Feeling sad and guilty

beth66335, BSN, RN · Jul 23, 2008

Your friend will probably be alright and your friendship sounds like it can stand up to anything; you would be happy for her I know if things where reversed, so she will be for you too I'm sure. I'm just happy you have her around at all. One of my bfs ( I don't have many friends either) that started school with me had to drop out last Fall b/c of cancer and unfortunately she lost her battle in June. After she dropped I would call her all the time and vent about school or tell her my latest good grade and she was so supportive. I'm in my last year and I'm probably going to shed a lot of tears b/c I can't call her anymore and share school with her...she always told me I could do it when I was nervous and then gave me the "I told you so" speech when I did well. I am an older student and we had known each other for 25 years....okay crying now...you will be fine and you will make friends in NS...after all you guys have a lot in common! :nurse:

Brycemom, RN · Jul 23, 2008

beth66335,

Let me begin by saying thank you for your reply. I am so sorry to read about the loss of your best friend. She was only meant to be here for a time and while she was here with you I know she made a great and positive impact on your life. I believe we are all put here with a destiny to fulfill and I feel that she fulfilled part of hers 25 years ago when she became your friend. You mentioned, like me, you don't have alot of friends guess what you have one more. I am here all the time. I wish you all the best as u continue this journey.

NurseJeanB · Jul 23, 2008

Oh I am so sad for you. The best parts of nursing school is the friendship and support. Did your friend look at all the options? Maybe she would consider financial aid loans or checking with the local hospitals for work study programs. Some will pay for school if you sign a contract working for them a couple of years. I am sure she looked at everything possible, but I just hate the idea of someone not pursuing nursing for financial reasons. Yes, I promise you, you will make friends with wonderful people, but you will still miss having your friend go through the same experiences as you.

Many hugs to you.

Beth,

I followed your friend's story from the beginning and was so very saddened when she passed. I send you hugs and strength to finish and become the wonderful nurse I know you will be.

Simpleplan · Jul 23, 2008

I am a bitter old man and I still found people to hang out with and work together to get through school. You will be fine. Even though nursing school is hard try to enjoy it. You will miss certain things about it after you graduate.

Daytonite, BSN, RN · Jul 23, 2008

think about all the patients whose lives you are going to touch as they are going through their illnesses alone. you may be their only support at a time when they need it. what can you do or say to them, do you suppose, that will help them? do you think that perhaps your own situation is a lesson in compassion for you in order to be able to help others you will be coming into contact with very soon? i wouldn't be surprised. i believe everything happens for a reason and that not all our lessons happen in a classroom. i am sorry that your friend isn't going to be on this journey with you. we all, however, like it or not, journey through life alone in our thoughts. people come and go out of our lives. people you knew from grade school are long gone and pursuing other paths. when you are 60 years old it is likely you will not be rubbing elbows with the same people you are today except for family. when you attend your first death maybe you will wonder, as i did, about true loneliness.

believe me, you have no conception of the honor you have been given as a nurse. we touch people's lives in a way no other profession does. when you realize how the things you say and do will affect the lives of patients it is going to make you think really deep thoughts about life and who you are. you have no idea of just how very special you are, but you will. no one else can share this gift and you can't give it away--it is all yours. just keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward. you just lack confidence at the moment. it will come in time as you blossom in your new career.

booklovinrn · Jul 23, 2008

I have a close friend that I met during pre-reqs. We were in most classes together and had planned on going to nursing school together. We studied together and it worked really well. When it came time to go to nursing school I had to put it off for a year because of family reasons. She was pretty upset. I still plan on going to the same program she is, just a year later. We have turned it into a positive (at least for me). She calls me almost every day and vents about nursing school. She also saves copies of handouts and power points for me. It is almost like I'm still there with her. I think it helps her to have someone who is interested to listen and I know it will help me next year when I start to already have all the info. I don't know if your friend is still planning to go to the same program but if she is maybe you could keep her still involved like our situation.

Good luck to you in school.

Brycemom, RN · Jul 23, 2008

think about all the patients whose lives you are going to touch as they are going through their illnesses alone. you may be their only support at a time when they need it. what can you do or say to them, do you suppose, that will help them? do you think that perhaps your own situation is a lesson in compassion for you in order to be able to help others you will be coming into contact with very soon? i wouldn't be surprised. i believe everything happens for a reason and that not all our lessons happen in a classroom. i am sorry that your friend isn't going to be on this journey with you. we all, however, like it or not, journey through life alone in our thoughts. people come and go out of our lives. people you knew from grade school are long gone and pursuing other paths. when you are 60 years old it is likely you will not be rubbing elbows with the same people you are today except for family. when you attend your first death maybe you will wonder, as i did, about true loneliness.
believe me, you have no conception of the honor you have been given as a nurse. we touch people's lives in a way no other profession does. when you realize how the things you say and do will affect the lives of patients it is going to make you think really deep thoughts about life and who you are. you have no idea of just how very special you are, but you will. no one else can share this gift and you can't give it away--it is all yours. just keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward. you just lack confidence at the moment. it will come in time as you blossom in your new career.

thank you so much for posting this reply you words are really uplifting. i know i want to be a nurse to touch people's lives in a positive way, but you have given me such a clear perspective on nursing. thank you so much:yeah:

Brycemom, RN · Jul 23, 2008

JBRN2B

Thank you so much, yes she says that she looked into all possibilities and although she will be able to pay for school through financial aide, she still has to work full-time to keep her household going and she has absolutly no family support which makes it very hard. All the best:nuke:

Simpleplan,

Thank you for your post I now feel there is hope for me yet. Best to you:)

CAMeadors

I also thank you. My friend has said she may try next year, which I hope she does and I too will save everything all notes, powerpoints, etc. My wish is still for both of us to become nurses. Also let me just say I admire your determination and endurance, Best wishes:up: