Family support through nursing school

dannyc12 · Jan 13, 2010

It is difficult from your post to tell the source of the stress. It appears that you are relying on others, especially your boyfriend to "take care" of your stress for you.

Can you be more specific about what is causing problems? You mention you work EVERY Saturday night. Is that it? Is he whining because you can't have date night on Saturday? Or are you?

tbjscheer · Jan 13, 2010

I agree with the previous post. Nursing school can be really stressful at times. Sometimes, relationships can add to your stress unnecessarily. It is up to you to decide how much you can handle and how important Nursing School is to you. When I started, a whole lot of changes had to be made in regards to my personal life. But I am okay with that, b/c I am focused on finishing school. I don't get a lot of support from my family but you just need to take a step back from the outside issues, and learn to lean on yourself for support. :0)

atlastoaxis · Sep 19, 2011

I don't really agree with the above posts. It is important to have a good support system behind you, and that has been stressed through out the RN program I am in. I do agree that you cant blame others for your stress level and you should be accountable to your own feelings. I pretty much expect that I am not going to go out with friends, my big stress relief sometimes is just a 15 minute chat on the phone with my best friend. Some extra help around the house or your husband/boyfriend to watch the kids while you go somewhere quiet to study can really make a difference. So "Suck it up" as the big advice seems rude and insensitive. Yeah, you have to give it your all to make it, but to have people supporting you with the little things rather than having some dead weight dragging behind you really makes a big diff. If you have to cut the dead weight, just know that sometimes its better to have the person not being there at all than than making things more difficult--

allnurses Guide · Sep 19, 2011

I guess I am somewhere in the middle. Did your family/boyfriend make the decision to go to nursing school along WITH you? Meaning....did you discuss it beforehand, talk about the rigors required and discuss how to make it work for you both? If the answer is no, then you can ask for more support, but not expect it. If it was a decision you made together, then you need to work out together how to make this work for your household.

Honestly there isn't enough detail in the original post to really answer this with any sense of clarity. What is "support" to one person is no big deal to another. Some people's idea of support is to not have to do anything but school and/or work. Others is less stringent. It is hard for me to say if you are being reasonable without a clearer idea of what needing support means to you.