Stop the Madness!!

[huggietoes]

I am tired, rundown and exhausted from all of the back biting, gut wrenching torment at work. Why can't we all get along? Why do some people have an incessant need to be a brown noser, to the point of going to the NM over the most minute foibles of fellow coworkers. Why are there always those that will stab you in the back the minute you turn around, those that feel that since they have been there over their probationary period can now just sit on their ever growing a#ses and not lift a finger to help. I can not take it anymore, I become physically ill at the thought of work. I have to admit I am now a part of this bitter party, and I am ashamed. I am a happy, tolerant person but now I feel like one of the hapless drones at work forever doomed to roam the earth in search of more people to talk about. I told a coworker that I like personally and professionally as I feel they are a good person and nurse what I heard another staff member telling the NM, how they were "out to get her" and that once they did "the place will be better when she is gone" and the NM was going along with this debauchery. I hate being a go between but I felt I needed to inform this person so that she may be able to protect herself. Was I wrong? Now it is getting blown out of control and the union is being consulted, I am terrified that my name is going to be brought into this, and this vindictive staff nurse is going to reign down her barrage of assault on me. Morale is low and people are bailing, what can I do besides turn a deaf ear?

[bellehill, RN]

Go someplace else. If you are becoming physically ill at the thought of going to work you need to move on. Not all places are full of back-stabbers but there will always be a couple. The best thing you can do is stay out of their way and be equally nice to everyone. You don't have to be friends will your co-workers but you do have to wrk professionally with them. I would definitely leave.

[talldollNYC]

That sounds rough. I'm sorry.

It always sucks to be in the middle of immature antagonistic behavior.

Don't know if it makes you feel any better, but situations like that occur everywhere, not just in nursing. While I'm in school (for my BSN), I'm working at a PR firm. People have screaming matches on a weekly basis. My boss says horrible things to me about the other employees. One project manager is running a campaign to get the CFO fired. It's a nightmare.

The world is full of hyperactive, petty, bitter people.

I send you strength and a prayer that things will get better soon.

-t

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

You say "I am tired, rundown and exhausted from all of the back biting, gut wrenching torment at work." That says it all. It's time to move on. There are definately better places to work.

Don't feel bad about warning the other employee that they are out to get them. Don't feel any fear that you will be targeted next. Standing up for what is right is never wrong.

What kind of Union do you have anyway? Can't you make any complaints against your manager and have him/her investigated for incompetence for allowing this situation in the first place?

Good luck.