Yes, I can. I was fortunate enough to have a GREAT preceptor (she was also my "new hire" preceptor after school). I was not your "average" student, however. I am a former paramedic, and as such, came into nursing school unafraid of pt contact, routine skills (in fact, from day one I was the designated "tough stick" IV man) and rapid, yet thorough, assessments. What I did not know was, of course, the unit routines, policies, charting methods/requirements, and specific equipment used therein. My point is that your preceptor should meet you where you are
and then bring you up to the expected level for a new nurse.
My preceptor started off with a short interview of sorts, to assess
my current skill and knowledge level. The she asked the question "What do you expect me to teach you, and how best do you think you can learn these things?"
First off, you and your preceptor will need to form a symbiotic type of relationship: he/she will teach you things, you will then relieve him/her of the necessity of doing those tasks in the future. This allows him/her to get on with the jobs that will inevitably fall behind d/t the time it takes to teach you something new. A preceptor should expect and graciously answer the multitude of questions a student/new grad will have. You should know where your preceptor is at all times, and they should know where you are and what you are doing at all times. Remember, you are a student (or new grad) and NOTHING you do should be done without the knowledge and approval of your preceptor!
Personalities should match, or at least be complimentary to, the student and the preceptor. A preceptor should not only teach you skills, but should also impart knowledge of the intangibles: those things a nurse should know, but are never taught it in school. Things like time-management, priorities of the shift, unwritten rules and best practices. Necessary correction should be gentle and in an attitude of teaching, rather than "keeping you in your place". A preceptor that won't answer your questions, allow you to perform interventions, or disappears on you for extended periods is worse that useless: he/she is actually detrimental to your career!
Also, there should be a "shift debrief". After you report off to the next shift, you and your preceptor should spend a few minutes discussing the shift, what you learned, and what you should spend some more time perfecting. Also, your preceptor should give some suggestions for your independent study - homework, in other words.
You mentioned in your first post that "I think she is just precepting for the extra money". Also that she runs down patients/coworkers to you. Her "job" now includes providing a quality education for you. Be VERY CAREFUL of the lessons you learn from this sorry individual - if she is skimping on the job she has with you, how much is she skimping on patient care? I can tell you from personal experience that such types DO NOT have nearly the "pull" they think they do. Quite often, they are highly disliked by their coworkers, and their managers would fire them in a second if a qualified replacement could be found. You cannot fool an experienced nurse for very long - we have ALL seen these types come and go.
Lastly, you MUST learn to trust, and more importantly to act on, your best judgment. In essence, thats what nursing really is - it's NOT tasks and medications - it is JUDGMENT. Your first post indicated that your preceptor is not right for you. Now, act on that knowledge: your school instructor will help you.
Best of luck to you!