The public just doesn't get it. - page 4
by deespoohbear 3,711 Views | 37 Comments
The public just doesn't get it. The confidentiality thing. Yesterday at work, I got a phone call. I answer the phone "Med/Surg, this is ....," Caller "Is John Doe there?" I could tell right away that this was NOT a family... Read More
- 0Aug 31, '02 by JailRNAnother splendid readon why I left hospital nursing. Now, when I have an inmate in jail, everybody in town knows they're in jail, because it's in the newspaper and TV.
Now, I get to watch as the guards separate "friends" in the visitors room who are the "1st baby's mama", fighting with the "2nd baby's mama" and so on and so on and so on. And LMAO.
Like when I worked in the unit and had patients say to me" oh don't let my wife see my girlfriend" or such. DROVE ME NUTS!!!!
- 0Aug 31, '02 by Scavenger'sWifeConfidentiality...some days thos you have to bite your tongue to honor it.
I had a patient yesterday whose adult daughter was irate, stating that the person in bed B told her that NO nurse had been in the room in a "long time" and that we were obviously not taking good care of the mother. I SOOOOoo wanted to tell the daughter the truth: that Bed B patient was bi-polar and you can't really believe her statements. I DID explain what care we had provided all day. Daughter continued to insist about Bed B Pt's statement, as if she believed her more than me. <sigh>
- 0Aug 31, '02 by AgnusOriginally posted by andrewsgranny
Well, I dont work in a hospital setting anymore, but people are just as nosey in a clinic. And can be very rude. If a pt. is being taken back into a room and happens to see a computer they will stretch their neck to look and see whats on it And if they happen to see somone they know they will say
"Oh so you all see Mr. Doe too?"
And our exams rooms are small so we have to limit one family member per pt. And have a sign posted to such in the waiting room. So when I get g-maw back everyone in the waiting room gets up to come too. Now I understand their concern that g-maw wont remember what the Dr. said but hopefully it wont take all of them to remember it. So I'll say I'm sorry our exam rooms just are not big enough for everyone. They respond... "well thats ok, when the Dr. comes in we will leave" NOT. Then a few will sit down and I still have 3 or 4 plus the pt. I say I'm sorry I only have enough room in here for one other person and then the pt. responds.."well I want them in here" What do I do? Then the Dr. says to me "we are gonna have to be more forward in preventing this many family members back" I'm sorry did I hear him tell any of them to leave? NOPE! The only way I can be more forward as he calls it is to be RUDE. Then I will hear it from the Dr. How the pt.'s family and the pt. complained I was rude to them.
No Win situation.....Last edit by Agnus on Aug 31, '02
- 0Sep 7, '02 by VivaLasViejas GuideDon't you just LOVE dealing with families :-( I swear, this job wouldn't be half as stressful if we didn't have to put up with people who place their mother or father in our care and then do their level best to interfere with the way that care is delivered. I'm a care manager in a skilled nursing facility, and I've seen family members literally rip their loved one's chart out of a nurse's hand and demand that she copy the entire medical record for them. Of course, these are always the same folks who go on and on about how well they cared for Mom or Dad at home, dictate which medications they want him/her to take or not take, what s/he is allowed to eat or not eat, etc. (If our care is so inadequate, why don't they take the resident back home??!!) They are also the first ones to threaten us with their cousin/uncle/friend who is an attorney if we don't do exactly what they want, when they want it. And on top of it all, they think nothing of barging in when we're doing personal care for their relative's roommate and sticking their head through the curtain to demand attention RIGHT NOW. Sheesh!
- 0Sep 7, '02 by deespoohbearWe have a doozy of a family right now on our floor. Basically expect a private duty nurse 24/7. Won't go into the specifics, but man is this family a trip. One shift with them and you want a whole new assignment the next day, even if it means you having 8 pts and getting two admits.
My personal favorites are the patients and families who always complain about the care at our hospital. Comments like "well they don't it this way at Big City General, or maybe we ought to have gone to Uptown Downtown Hospital-at least they know what they are doing." And these are same patients who keep coming back to our facility for treatment. I don't get it. If I am unhappy with a certain business I don't go back. Pretty simple. I do not like the fast food chain Hardees. Can't stand their food. So, therefore I do not go to Hardees'. If you are not happy with the hospital, go somewhere else. I also appreciate the patients or families who gripe about their doctors not doing this or that but they won't speak to the doctor about it. Instead, they complain to the nursing staff about something that we have no control over. Aggggghhhhhh!!!
- 0Sep 8, '02 by st4304I hate it when visitors just barge into a room when the curtain is drawn or door is shut without even knocking!
When I worked in ICU, we were helping a patient with her bath with the sliding doors shut and the curtains pulled. All of a sudden the door opens and the curtains are yanked back -- there stood a group of five women. We immediately covered the patient at the same time yelling "Please step back outside!" The leader of the group had the gall to look offended, and yelled back "That is our sister and we are here to see her!" Come to find out, they were her church 'sisters', and to make matters worse, they were actually there to see the woman who had been transferred from that room earlier that morning! And to add to the problem, the poor woman they barged in on was another member of that same church who had a colostomy and later confided to me that she was mortified that they might have seen it because they were the 'biggest gossips in the church'.
Another time I let a 'brother' visit with an 18-yr old patient who was intubated and sedated. Later the patient's mother yelled at me for letting the man visit. When I told her he had told me he was his brother, she explained that he was a member of a religious cult that they were trying to get their son to quit. Oops.
Our unit now has a keypad with a code to get the ICU doors to open. There is a phone outside the doors, the visitor picks up the phone, it automatically rings the nurses station, we answer it, check with the RN if the patient can have a visitor, and push a button that opens the doors for the visitor. Of course, half of the time the visitors just wait for an employee to open the doors (which is about every 5 min what with all the therapists, SW, MDs, etc going in and out) and follow them in. They have no shame!
- 0Sep 8, '02 by RNforLongTimeOriginally posted by shannonRN
my favorite is when 13 people call during one shift to ask for an update on their ___. we spend so much time dealing with the callers and explaining that they need to have one person designated to obtain updates and then the rest of the family can call them....they don't get it. even better is when they complain that ___ hasn't been medicated for pain and he asked for it 5 minutes ago. well, gee, if i didn't have to stop and talk to you he would have had it already!!!
- 0Sep 8, '02 by RNforLongTimeOriginally posted by RoadRunner
We always ask for the relation between our patient and the caller before giving any infos and oh! the nerves of some people; the neighbor, the girl who works with her, the mother of his school friend (yes!), the rabbi, and the ever popular cousin from far far away calling long distance...