So, I know I am not the only person who had had marital problems, but I feel I need tips to see my way through school without letting my personal life destroy the hard work I have done to become a nursing student.
Just after I was accepted, my husband and I began to experience marital problems. I am in pain over our situation and it really messes with my concentration.
We are going to begin counselling, but I am afraid things may not work out for us. We have two children who I don't want to see hurt and I have hopes for a nursing career so I can grow as a person.
It is hard to get focused on school when I just want to dwell on us and putting our marriage right, if we can.
We have both made terrible mistakes.
I am experiencing a lot of anger!
What have others done to keep their energies focused on succeeding when the rest of their lives seem to be failing?
Thanks for any advice.
Nov 24, '08
I just noticed I put my post in the wrong place. Feel free to move it and my apologies!
Jan 26, '10
I am going through the exact same thing, only my husband refuses to go to counceling with me. The best advice anyone gave me was my aunt who has been a LPN for 30 years; she said "the only thing you can control is yourself and how you deal/respond to things". I cannot control him or how he feels, I cannot even control our marriage, but I can heal myself. Yesturday I went and made an appointment with a councelor at the university I'm at (might as well recieve some of those services my tuition is paying!) I am trying to manage my own feelings and frustrations and preventing it from getting in the way of my BSN program. I even had to write on a card all the reasons I want to be a nurse...so when ever I get discouraged I can look up and be reminded. It doesnt always make me feel warm and fuzzy, but it helps keep the eye on the prize.