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I'm in ICU and we have a woman in her 30s who has a 10 year old son, her only child. His grandparents are dead and his father is in jail. If she goes, he will stay with the father's mother. The mom might not make it within a week or so. The patient's sibling has no idea how to break the news and wants me to do it.... OMG!!!!! He is on his way within an hour, what do I do?????? How do I say it in a compassionate way??? I think I'm soooo going to bawl my eyes out! Anybody with any experience in how to break the news to a child?
Many of us feelthat there are more appropriate avenues of seeking help rather than posting to an anonymous MB, where you have no idea who is replying/what their experience or credentials are. A lot of people are on this board, and not all of them are nurses. Some have given advice in the past.FTR, no, I have never used this site (nor any other MB) to get help when I had a question. That's what co-workers and supervisors are for.Whether you feel that way or not ma'am, it is only your opinion. If you had no advice for your peer in her time of need, you simply should not have responded. And if for reasons all your own you felt that what she did had put her pt in danger, or was a blatant HIPAA violation, You could have just as easily have PM'd her/him some advice-not condemnation. There is no need to finger point at this nurse with all eyes reading-well other than to show everyone else how "On the ball" you are and how much the OP "REALLY should take your high and mighty advice".Look, you might have meant well (though I believe you just wanted the attention, and for the other posters to see you correcting her/him. I suppose I could be wrong though. But I doubt it.), but I believe you were wrong and are a PRIME example of "Nurses eating their young."This also goes for this poster as well and just as strongly:Dec 23 byMN-NurseQuotefrom Trilldayz,RNBSNYes, I was asking during my shift, and I don't understand why its an issue, as I was just asking for advice, since no other nurse on my unit had any advice to give me (and people on Allnurses reply VERY quickly, which is awesome!). The patient was being taken care of and there was no family at the bedside when I was writing this.I wanted to thank everyone for your advice and empathy. Dezy, I tried PMing you but your box is full. No more updates, besides they plan on withdrawing her from life support today, I believe. it is VERY heartbreaking, but I'm glad I got to experience something so tough...this will make me an even stronger nurse for it.This is an example of some of the worst occupational judgement I have ever seen on allnurses.I know you will, not surprisingly, get support for your actions here, and you won't listen to any advice to the contrary. While your situation is indeed terribly challenging, nurses cannot just go to random yahoos on the internet for advice during shifts. Depending on your previous posts, it would not be hard to discern who you are talking bout given you provide exact times for the situation.Of course it is fine to break down and discuss events after your shift,but hanging out on a public internet message board while dealing with a very serious situation is simply insane.
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This is amazing. I am not a nurse yet but on my way to starting in Spring. I just want to say that as a nurse you guys make a huge difference in peoples life. I lost my mother 13 years ago and a nurse helped me get through the initial pain of losing her. She was as wonderful as Esme was with that little girl and that is what motivated me to want to pursue this career. Thank you Esme for going above and beyond and for making such a positive imprint in a life during such a painful time.