Hi everyone. I would like some advice. OK, I have been in early menopause since I was about 30. I had little choice really--go on HRT or never get any sleep, be completely unable to focus or concentrate, have zero libido, stay completely witchy and agitated all the time. Sheesh, forget about hot flashes and other things--the previous symptoms were beyond intense. I had tried all different things--honestly I did. Nothing worked but HRT. I see reputable people from more than one discipline for this problem.
Now, my problem is that since I started back to late off shift in particular, I am agitated and come off strong without even really knowing it or being able to stop it. I feel badly as soon as it comes out, but at that point it is too late. I must have some control, b/c I am able to still not do this w/ patients and families, but certain colleagues will just rub me the wrong way,. It's then that, well, I end up rubbing them the wrong way, even though I am not grossly disrespectul or mean. And it is not that I refuse to follow direction. I am just outspoken and speak plainly, and there are times it bothers people. Someone spoke to me about it today, and I really wasn't aware of how I was coming off. I am starting to wonder if my HRT isn't working anymore--though I am no where near as bad as I am without it. And even when I don't say anything, I must show nonverbal expressions that put some folks off. Some people don't take offense so easily, while others do. I don't want to be this way or seem annoyed or agitated. Furthermore, I don't really hold grudges, so after I let off a little bit of steam--voice frustration or somehow show annoyance, well, then I'm done with it. the thing is, others may not be.
Anyone have any books or suggestions about this. I am a good and caring nurse. I have and would break my butt to help my colleagues and pts and families--especially when it is most needed. Everyone seems very touchy anymore, and somehow my agitation, though dampened, still pushes the buttons of others. I want to be able to work along with as many folks as possible. And though I may be outspoken and passionate, I do accept that others have differing P(s)OV on things. That really that is OK with me. I expect them too. But if I sense they are NOT extending that same courtesy to me, well I guess I show frustration over it. I've been looking and trying to learn some things about myself in regards to this; and from the perspectives of other fellow nurses, I truly would appreciate some insight.
Please don't hold back. Speak your POV freely. I won't take it personally. I am just looking to understand and grow. Seriously.
Thanks