job offer dilema

[pedspnp]

Ok here is my dilema, Monday I interviewed for a job, one that I really want, yesterday I was offered the job at a great salary, great benifits and working conditions, its case management. M-F no w/e no holidays. Well I accepted it not realizing that the start date is in 2 weeks. I called my husband and told him about the offer, he said great only there is a problem, I have a wedding I have to be at the week after the start date, and a graduation the week after that, we have already paid the air-fare and I dont know what to do, I need to call them on Monday and with-draw my acceptence, and hope maybe they will offer to let me start at a later date. How do I do this with grace and not leave a bad taste in the recruiters mouth. thanks:eek:

[pedspnp]

Would your family not understand your absence since you have been offered a job that you describe as one you really want? Or do they, unlike you, put themselves first?

Of course they would, but my family not $$$ comes first. Never has never will. I certainly would not be a nurse if $$$ was the incentive:yeah:

[Straydandelion]

This IMO is totally your decision.. I, like you, think family comes first yet would POSSIBLY think the job with those particular hours would in the long run help the family more then two events. As far as what to say, it depends totally on how determined you are to go to these events and whether to go to both or just one also. I would just call them and tell them after checking your calendar you were reminded of an event/events you had already committed to and ask if possible you could begin at a later date, or possibly you can begin between these events just getting the day off...flying out and back that day.

[kmn360]

Ok here's my thoughts - everyone is human, we all have lives. There is no reason you cannot go to them and talk this out. Once you actually talk to them and if they won't be flexible, you'll have to make a choice at that point. Most are flexible and reasonable. Just be up front and honest. Basically you got caught up in the moment when they called you, that happens - it actually shows you were a little too excited about the position. :)

Generally the only time you may have a problem is if they are adding you to some kind of training or orientation class that has a set time frame.

Good luck!

[pedspnp]

Well for all those following my story I called today, and they were very willing to allow me to start on the next orientation.