I work in a pediatrician's office and am not sure how to handle one of the moms. Her daughter is about 2 years old, very healthy and I've known her since birth. Mom was very nervous at first so I made myself available to answer whatever questions she may have had. But after a while I worried that she had become too dependant on me. She would call me for every little thing, often for things that if she used a little common sense, she could figure out. So I sort of boosted her self confidence by encouraging her to use her own instincts and judgment when it came to her daughter and then I praised her when she did just that. It seemed to work because she stopped calling for about a year...and the baby was doing great.
Well, over the last few months it's all started up again. It started with her calling me one day a few months ago asking me if she could let her daughter go outside to play. The child was over a year and a half at the time and yeah, although it was cold out, it wasn't THAT cold. (I know this sounds unprofessional, but it was all I could do to keep from laughing) And the calls like that continue. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind fielding her calls, when there's a genuine concern, but I'm beginning to feel that she's latching on to me again.
I usually encourage parents to feel free to call me if they have a question, especially first time parents with infants and parents of premies or sick kids. I tell them that I don't believe in stupid questions and would rather they call me than be unsure. But now I'm wondering if this is a good thing. The majority of parents are really great about it...but I think I may have inadvertently created a monster with this one mum.
Now the question is, how do I UNcreate it??
[This message has been edited by laurasc (edited February 14, 2001).]