Children, Husband/wife, JOb and Nursing school??!!! - page 2

How did you manage?!... Read More

  1. by   LilRedRN1973
    When I went through nursing school, I had a 3 year old, a 6 year old, and a husband who worked 12 hour night shifts. Add to that a part time (24 hours a week) night job and a crazy ex wife who continually switched her visitation hours on us (my husband has full custody) and there were times when I thought I would go crazy. Then we find out my father-in-law had leukemia and dealt with another family member going through breast cancer.

    I got through it when I would look at my stepkids. Just knowing how much better their life would be once I finished school was enough (their mother pays $200/month support...not enough for much more than food). Also, knowing that my husband would be there for me every step of the way. He did pretty much all the housework, laundry, and other little menial chores that freed up study time for me. I still did the grocery shopping and bills. Oh, I forgot to mention that my husband was also in school, taking 12 credits each semester. We walked at graduation together The day my stepkids walked onto that stage and put on my nursing pin was one of the most incredible, memorable, and meaningful days of my life. It made the past 2 years just disappear. You should have seen how we spoiled those kids that next Christmas!! It made up for them going without for several years. Amazingly enough, we made it through school with no educational debt (don't ask about the credit cards ) because my hubby's GI bill paid for not only his schooling, but mine as well.

    It's tough but you have to take things one day at at time, much like a recovering addict! Otherwise, you become overwhelmed and want to throw in the towel. I graduated with a 3.2GPA that I'm very, very proud of....others had higher but they also didn't have some of the stressors we did. I found I was stronger than I ever thought I could be!

    Melanie = )
  2. by   BSNtobe2009
    Well, I'm single, but if I had teenage children and a husband, there would be some SERIOUS division of duties. One person can't do it all.

    I remember asking my father once why I always had to do the dishes, his response: "Your mother and I had to do the dishes before you got here and will have to do them after you are gone, but while you are here, it's your job."

    Words to live by!
  3. by   Markthemalenurse
    I got lucky. I had a job that was three days a week (16 hours on Sat and SUN plus 8 hours on Mon). While I was in school the ex-wife was working and my son was at school. When he didn't have school, my mother would watch him.
  4. by   Cardiac-RN
    sacrificed alot of precious sleep : /

    i am still playing catch up : )

    it was hard, but keeping the end goal in sight really helped keep spirits up for both me and my family.

close