I've been a nurse for about 10 years, 2 1/2 in the ER, and ever since I've started in the ER I've noticed something. I am really a less compassionate person.
I started in oncology and was great at caring and not taking it home with me. I held hands while people died, hugged grieving family members, etc... Now after working in the ER, I have to admit I act like I care but feel nothing inside. I look at people as if to say "I'm really trying to show you I care but don't give a shit inside". I think this is terrible!! What is wrong with me? I honestly think the September 11th incident has contributed to it. I was initially stunned, then just refused to watch the TV or even think about it so I wouldn't be upset. I swear I've turned into some kind of complacent robot.
I noticed the problem today because one of my friends, his wife and both her parents are currently having major health problems, and I don't know what to say that is of any comfort. These are people I have known for a long time and dearly love. And I feel like I have a heart of stone. This isn't like me at all, but I can't make myself care. Has working in the ER done this to me?? Any insights would be greatly appreciated.