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cardiacRN2006, ADN, RN · Dec 19, 2006

OK, you are starting to jar my memory cells into action. I don't remember the term ICSI, but I do recall them saying icksie.
Our emotions clouded our decisions about all this. My wife was getting desperate to have a kid, me too for that matter, as we weren't getting any younger.

Yep. That's how they pronounce it, icksie. Yes, when I had my consultation with our RE, he kinda failed to show up. He was that busy, I guess. To boot, I still had to pay the co-pay and got charged a Drs visit because the NP gave me the list of charges for what IVF would cost. I really dislike most RE's because they are so casual with the situation. It's no skin off of their back if you don't get a pregnancy. I'm sure there are many fine REs out there, somewhere. But it's a field designed around earning money off of people's desperation, that's for sure.

Anyhow, what ever happened? What did you do?

58flyer · Dec 20, 2006

our RE, he kinda failed to show up. He was that busy, I guess. To boot, I still had to pay the co-pay and got charged a Drs visit because the NP gave me the list of charges for what IVF would cost.
Anyhow, what ever happened? What did you do?

Holy Cow! A co-pay and office charge because the NP gave you a list of charges? Isn't that like being charged to read the menu at a restaurant? If anything, you should have backed out the co-pay from your next visit for them wasting your time.

What did we do? Nothing, just gave up. Still no kids. :crying2:

One other option that was available was that the nice girl egg donor offered to be a surrogate mom. She was (and still is) that good a friend. She's a sweet lady, wonderful personality, and breathtakingly beautiful. She has 2 kids of her own and had no problems during the 2 pregnancies. She was single (again) at the time of our IVF. But her sister said she shouldn't because she might get too emotionally attached to the kid. I was willing to take that chance. My wife wanted to do the whole birth experience herself but it doesn't seem like nature will cooperate. Her eggs were not very viable and her past endometriosis doesn't help either. So it isn't just my ASAs. The donor was willing to try sperm wash and insemination first before another attempt at IVF. I still think that is worth a try. The problem now is that the donor has gotten married, possibly raising new issues.

cardiacRN2006, ADN, RN · Dec 23, 2006

What did we do? Nothing, just gave up. Still no kids. .

Oh, that really sucks. I'm sorry to hear it.

So now I will ask the same question probably a million other people have asked you-have you ever considered adoption?

Infertility just sucks!

58flyer · Dec 25, 2006

So now I will ask the same question probably a million other people have asked you-have you ever considered adoption?

Yes we did.

A few years ago, there were some legal issues in Fla regarding adoption laws. An atty advised us to wait until the issues were resolved. I think that resolution has occurred but we never got around to proceeding with adoption since a career change took place in my life. Things have settled down now. The time may be right. I want to have a go with the surrogate but I can't convince the wife that that may be the best way right now.

An opportunity came up recently when my best friend's daughter, a 2nd year college student, came up pregnant. She considered adopting the child out and my friend immediately thought of us. She (the mom) couldn't take care of the child at this stage of her life. The wife and I were definitely agreeable to adoption and thought our prayers were answered. Then, without explanation, the mom aborted. That was a serious letdown.