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I have a situation at work that is very frustrating and turning my insides out. I work the night shift along with 3 other RNs on an 11 bed PCU. One of the day shift RNs is very angry because she feels that there is too much work "left over" for her to do when she starts her shift. One of things she has c/o is that she would wants things on the over the bed tables, like pitcher of H2O, tissues etc. pushed to one side because if there isn't any room, when the kitchen aides come to deliver the breakfast trays they leave the trays on chairs and the pt's don't get their meal until she walks in and gives it to them. Alright, that's reasonable enough and I do do this. I can't stand stuff scattered all over either. She also feels that she shouldn't have to pull pts. up in bed when she enters a room, or fix their blankets etc. This should already be done. We have tried to explain to her that pts. do move around on their own. I mean how many times have you just done up a pt. and you go back to the room 15 or 20 minutes later and the bed is wet and it looks like no one has ever been near the person? The other night my co-worker was having difficulty with a confused pt. He was grabbing her and scratched her, so I and the clinical co-ordinator were in the room helping restart an IV and genarally fixing him up. A little later I assisted her in straight cathing him and we fixed him up again. We both proceeded to continue with the rest of our pts. as it was near the end of the shift and we still had meds to pass and finish charting. When she went into the room she was very angry because he had slid down in the bed so that the pads underneath him were now under his neck and because he had squirmed around, a corner of his sheet was hanging down. She paged the vice president of nursing and my clinical co-ordinator as well as the day shift one. Fortunately my clinical co-ordinator was able to verify the problems we had with this pt. as she had helped us out. The day RN had said that no one had touched this man at all. We then thought that if we did pt. rounds when the next shift comes on we could rectify any of the things that are aggravating her. She refused to do this asking what that was supposed to accomplish and feels that it's the job of the clinical co-ordinators. ("I told them the problem now it's up to them to do their jobs"). When asked point blank, she said that none of the 4 of us night RNs are doing our jobs well and we need to learn to manage our time more effectively. She knows there is a lot of down time on nights (which we acknowledge) and plenty of time for "chit-chat". She doesn't feel she should have to do orthostatics, wgts, all transfer sheets should be done, whether pt. going to another facility or to the med-surg floor, (we should be able to anticipate this). We do these things but sometimes it's not done because we've had heavy pts. or emergent situations. (pt. transfered from floor with profuse nasal bleeding, tachycardia, needed few units of FFP/blood given and pt. vomiting and frightened. No, I didn't get a chance to do the transfer sheet on someone going to the floor probabaly that day because I spent all my time with this pt. and MD phone calls etc. BTW we have electronic charting so when doing the transfer sheets most info. is re-called from other assessment sheets. The only thing needed is a brief pt. summary). Plus most of the transfers to another facility for cardiac caths. occur on my shift. Pts. usually leave around 5 or 6 am. It's very difficult to talk with her. She doesn't acknowledge anything we say or respond to our explainations. She has made it quite clear that she is the best nurse on the floor and always does her job well. We all know what the day shift entails, docs coming in, dx. tests, two meals, families etc. I understand that and empathise. But exactly when are my pts. supposed to sleep? When I go into my pt. rooms, I do their assessments, straighten out furniture (basically because you can't get to the pt.), untangle IV lines from the phone cords and call bell, get fresh ice water, clean off tray tables etc. I'm not perfect and I don't pretend to be. But how do we deal with this person? My clinical co-ordinator is bringing this to our manager because she doesn't know what to do with it anymore. We come in to messy rooms etc. but I know that the evening shift is busy with tx., d/c, adm. etc. so I just do it. If they leave something left over like an IV start or late meds on an admit, I don't care I just do it. I know they are busy. Mnagement has acknowledged that the day shift probably could use an aide for the whole shift. Right now they have one that works from 8am to 5pm to cover a little of both shifts, and thay have been trying to float one down from one of the floors but this isn't always possible. Any suggestions? Has anyone had similar situation? Whew!! Long winded I know but had to vent.

Doey, I see exactly where you are coming from. It is so hard to deal with, but if you can enlist the help of management and other staff members, I am sure you can come to some type of problem resolution. Some people who work days just automatically assume nights does nothing but sit around. Keep your chin up, and keep doing your best.

PS: I know the unit you work on is crazy, hope things are going well for you.

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Doey, I see exactly where you are coming from. It is so hard to deal with, but if you can enlist the help of management and other staff members, I am sure you can come to some type of problem resolution. Some people who work days just automatically assume nights does nothing but sit around. Keep your chin up, and keep doing your best.

PS: I know the unit you work on is crazy, hope things are going well for you. Please send me e-mail I think we have some things in common.. wink.gif [email protected]

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Originally posted by earle58:

To Oramar- great input.

To MJourney - HOW do you deal with these neurotic, obsessive-compulsive control freaks? Especially when she's the charge nurse, has worked there 20 years and mgmt. just looks the other way, stating, "Oh, she'll get over it". She is such an energy zapper... Truly, the nurses are intimidated by her outbursts. I do Charge on her days off. I've had it out with her a couple of times and she has tried to control herself but it's like working with a pressure cooker. Again, how do you deal with this?

Hi earle58. Oramar gave an astute assessment of what may actually be the problem in Doey's case and your case. I would be interested in reading what he/she had to say as well as others on resolving or dealing with the problem.

I do not feel that every nurse that focuses on qualities of detail has a personality disorder (some may call it a hero complex). Patient care is very subjective, and nurses have always been required to simultaneously focus on details and the big picture. This comes with the territory when you're talking about human life, and it takes a lot of practice and understanding to put care in balance and perspective. What's problematic is the attitude in which we approach one another over work priorities. I think much of this can be diffused by administration which overly relies on old methods of managing people and situations to keep things simple for them. Life is too complex now to rely solely on the old. Doey's post, in my opinion, indicated that most of the c/o of her co-worker, while important, could be considered minor by the nurse who focuses mainly on the big picture. No doubt, as oramar indicated, this person may be "in" with administration. That is another issue that may be a contributing factor in the dispute, but only Doey can admit that. Insecurity and/or strong work ethics drive many people toward perfection and those who work with or around them "up the wall." The question is how to get those who seem to go over the top with their behavior to admit they have a problem?

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