I was forced to join nursing and hate it

Vtachy1 · Oct 18, 2016

No, you are not alone. These women that are attracted to nursing have a TON of personal life problems, so life at work is insanely stressful and life outside work is even worse. I think that they have not had good mentors on how to treat others and have warm relationships. Its well known that nurses eat their young.

Ask them about themselves. Make everything all about them, and not yourself. At some places you have to earn their respect and acceptance and that takes YEARS.

Its not like that everywhere. If you can just find ONE just ONE person that is nice and friendly and a good mentor, then you have found life's biggest treasure.

I pray that you can find that one person who has a wonderful work ethic, is generous with love, and a good role model.

Just do your very best, have TONS of humility, have the best work ethic on the entire planet, be helpful always lend a helping hand. Work your butt off. If you know you do a good job, you can influence others to do good work. Don't be hard on yourself because I WANT my students to make mistakes, that is how they learn best. People that don't make mistakes are not doing ANYTHING but sitting on their ischial tuberosities.

Jellyunicorntoast · Oct 18, 2016

Thank you.. It made me feel abit better. However the nurse manager is going to throw me out soon like she said. Are you a nursing educater??

Vtachy1 · Oct 18, 2016

NO, I have worked 25 years in the field but now I teach CNA students.

MechelleMyBell · Oct 19, 2016

I'm curious how someone or something can force you to go to nursing school then become a nurse? Maybe you just need to change places of employment?

Jellyunicorntoast · Oct 19, 2016

I Guess we are Asian and our parents sometimes force us to join things they choose

MechelleMyBell · Oct 20, 2016

Oooh I see. Well, I'm a parent of a 22 and 17 year old. And I did try and get my kids into nursing or something similar, I thought it would be good for them, but I could see their heart just wasn't into in. If I would have forced the issue on my 22 year old, he would be feeling what you're feeling no doubt.

i think you also may have a little resentment and that's understandable and I don't think your heart's in it and could be why you make mistakes.

If you were my child I would tell you to follow your heart. Be happy with what you do everyday bc you're the one that has to wake up to it every morning. Life is too short to be miserable.

I hope you find what you love to do. Best of luck to you.

historylovinglpn · Oct 21, 2016

Many people, including my supervisor constantly ask me why I don't become an RN. Why? Because I never really liked nursing to begin with. I didn't like the medical profession period. Not at the start of my Medic course in the army, and not at the end of Lpn training. WHy would I then become an Rn? I wouldn't because I also felt forced into this profession. No one held a gun to my head. But I feel circumstances did force me onto this path. As a 17 yr old I wanted to leave home as soon as I could and wanted to join the Army. My father would only sign if I picked something medical. Alas, if I had waited a few months until I was 18 I would not have needed his signature. I can only imagine what career trajectory I would have been on had I waited just a few months until I was 18. Oh, the folly and impatience of youth!

I also understand why my parents wanted me to go into something medical, particularly nursing. I grew up in the rust belt around the time factories were closing. When my father lost his job, we lived in a car for about two months. My parents and three of my sisters. No stability. When my father finally got a new job it wasn't something he loved to do. (A janitor) My mother also got a job packing pastries into boxes at a bakery. Neither job paid well but it kept us off the streets. Doing a job you love wasn't a concept my parents were familiar with and probably to this day think it is nonsense. It was doing work that paid the bills. They didn't want me to end up in a car again or struggle with bills.

Which is exactly what happened(the struggling with bills) when I decided to quit nursing and go into personal training full-time. I loved this job but wow, did it hurt my pocketbook. So back to nursing I went. I don't hate it like I used to. I don't love it either. I am neither here nor there about it. IT's a job. I can pay my bills. Not being able to pay bills is more depressing to me.

Living in the rust belt the only successful people they saw were nurses and teachers. Successful in their eyes was not living in a damn car and having money to pay bills. Their social circle didn't have them come into contact with people like financial analysts, engineers, etc. I wish they at least wanted me to look beyond nursing.

Right now i am getting my masters in statistics. IT's something I LOOOOVE. As well as something that actually pays well. Sure I could get my Rn and get compensated well. But it would still be doing something I am not passionate about nor like very much. I still want to do something I love. Luckily my math skills can also pay the bills quite easily. So maybe i can still have both. Until then, I am grateful for my LPN job. But I won't lie and say that I sometimes resent my parents for putting me on this path, although they had the very best of intentions.