Now what? Divorce after starting school.

[lollylee1969]

I have a question and hope I can get some good feedback from this thread. Here's the deal-

My husband (of almost 23 years) decided he thought it would be a good idea to divorce during my first semester of Nursing School. (Can you say sabotage?!?) It was 6 weeks into the Fall12 Semester- so he let me take out the student loans and all the financial aid and then dropped the bomb. I was not able to stay in the home or in school or even in the state. I moved from Georgia to Texas where I have family. I was able to medically withdraw since I was hospitalized. So I am in good standing at my school. I am a Phi Theta Kappa member. And had A's at the mid-term if this makes any difference. I can probably get recommendations from my Profs at school. Also, I have my A.S. Pre-Nursing.

I guess my questions for you would be:

* Financially it will be a struggle but am wondering if I should get my LVN/RN or go for my BSN. I hate to have to give up. I have worked so hard to make it where I was. It would be next fall I could get in to a BSN Program (UGH!!), and I could start earlier for a training program.

* Also, the entrance testing and prerequisites are different in Texas- TEAS vs. HESI2 and most schools require Chemistry as well as Texas History which would set me back to.

* I could always buckle down and go back to Georgia. I was happy with my school and loved living in Georgia, but I hate to move my kids again and don't want to be that close to my ex if I can avoid it. Also, my overhead is low in TX and I have more support here than I would have there.

I just feel like my education and life is totally down the drain. I could really use some insight. I have a lot of choices to make and I keep running in circles. I am so frustrated! So if anyone can help me brainstorm through this I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks!

[Crazed]

I would go for a 2 year RN program, once you get that RN, you can work and make good money and work on your bachelor's online, that is what I hope to do!

There is no such thing as a 2-year RN program as with pre-reqs they are usually four years.

In any case stay where you are. Working and going to nursing school is difficult so if you can get into a BSN program focus on doing that and try to get an aide job in the meantime.

[BeenThereDoneThat74, MSN, RN]

Yes, I do feel like my world is falling apart and I thought if I could just drown myself in studying I could forget about the pain. I know you are right. I need to work through the heartache and actually deal with this. This year is a wash as far as school goes. If I begin again next fall then I will only be one year behind my class and I will probably be much better off. I just feel like I am going to lose my mind. I was so busy with school and now I am so NOT. I have found a job working part-time but not in the medical field because I don't really have any training in that. All my schooling has been basic classics. I would like to work in a hospital but wouldn't know where to start. I have gone to the WorkForce Commission and maybe I can get my CNA- which would be quick. If anyone has any other ideas I would love to hear them...

Yes, it is tough to not have something to divert your attention and energy towards. I feel like (especially mommies and nurses) do not do well with idle time, we need to keep ourselves busy and productive! But usually with these nursing programs. It's all or nothing: if only you could do one class right now, that was low impact (ha ha ha, like there are any of those!).