Will I be judged on my past?

Nurses General Nursing

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Hi i'm new to the board. Here is the situation.

I'm just finishing my first year of nursing school, and although I haven't had alot of one on one instruction i'm sure i'll receive lots in the years to come (in the 4 year BScN program)

When I was 14 and 15 there was alot going on in my life that I was unsure of how to deal with. I found superficial releif from self metalation, I've since taken care of it, and have found proper ways to deal with hard times. But as a result my left are has quite a few noticable scars, that are quite obviouse of what they are from. Will this be a problem if Prof, fellow student, or pt see them. I have no problem admiting to it, and I can having a discusion about it. I just don't want poeple to talk behind my back.

thanx Still Riding

Everybody carries around scars from life.

Some scars are on the inside and some

are on the outside.

I've had scars on my face for a long time now.

I look in the mirror and am reminded that I have

lived and am still alive. They are my badge of

courage, a reminder of how alive I am.

I tell children who ask that I fell down and hurt

myself (a figurative truth). If a grown-up asks,

I say I got hurt. If they persist, I stay silent for

a few seconds and then ask quietly why in the

world would they want to know that?

I mean, honestly, it's nobody's business.

Some people have no sense of boundaries and will

push and push and push. If it's not about your

scars, it'll be about something else. And some

people are just plain judgmental using how you

look, dress, talk, walk, or what type of car you

drive as an excuse to bolster their own egos.

People worth telling your story too will never ask.

Don't ever forget that it's your *choice* who to

talk to about your scars and when.

And trust me on this - lots of people will notice your

scars when they first meet you and then stop seeing

them. Trust that people have the capacity to see

past your scars to you. A lot of that depends on how

you see yourself.

Samantha

Specializes in Med-Surg.

Beautiful post Samantha. :kiss

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