The Smile that Changed Everything

  1. Sometimes we put labels on people or we have preconceived ideas which may or may not be wrong. But perhaps, a better approach would be to keep a blank slate and go into a situation without any expectations and then form opinions as we go. Of course, every situation is unique and we have some wisdom so we should be able to decipher.

    I think I found my writing

    Grouchy old woman she was, I was told
    Everyone her care was quick to thrust away
    Every step in her room was always timed
    For haste had to be made to get away from the grouchy old woman
    Then my turn it was to care for this person
    Gory tales I had already heard
    Looking forward to this task, I was not
    But the job had to be done
    And there I was to do it; excited I was not
    I delayed as much I reasonably could
    Slow to attend to this patient I was
    Save the best for the last?
    I saved the "worst" for the last!

    Like a hangman to the rope, I walked
    Prepared to do my best
    Expecting the worst
    Knocking on the door, I bravely walked in
    And in a moment of repose caught her
    A faraway look in her eyes there was
    Asked I of her, "Is everything okay?"
    And out poured a poignant tale of a loved one gone by
    And tales of a life gone by
    Pictures were shown of dear loved ones
    A connection we had made

    That put this "grouchy old woman" in good light
    Grouchy she was not
    Her expressions though wrong
    Concealed a broken heart
    Weep not, dear person
    "It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved"
    I smiled and she smiled back
    Tis true; a smile begets a smile
    I walked out the room, ashamed of my thoughts
    I almost did not give this woman a chance
    From opinions already made
    A promise I made, to go henceforth
    With no opinions made
    A blank slate I would be,
    A chance I would give
    To my next, "grouchy old woman"

    Last edit by The_Optimist on Sep 8, '13
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  3. by   SmackerNurse
    So true, so true! This was one lesson I learned even before I became an RN. I was working as a nurse-extern at the time. It seemed like every time I received report I was told, "this one is mean and grouchy" or "this one gave me hell all day, beware." What I found was that it was not the patient who was the grouchy one and if you approached them with compassion and an open mind, they were not what you were told.

    Great post!!!!!