Question

[Tweety]

I previously posted about this situation a couple of weeks ago, but was a bit inappropriate and it was deleted. I apologize for that.

Briefly, is it possible to report someone for "inappropriate" remarks, rather than sexual harrasment?

A coworker, made a couple of sexual propositions to me. He know's I'm happily "married", I wear a wedding band, and I informed in it was monogamous. He's male and I am male.

He stopped. I'm not willing to drag us both through a sexual harrassment case. I'm just not. But my spouse whom I confided in is going to call HR with the situation if I don't report it.

I'm meeting with my manager tomorrow to explain why I'm leaving this unit. Being unconfortable with this person is only one of the reasons. I'm grown, I handled the situation, it's done. But for the sake of not allowing him to get away with it, I'm going to mention it to my manager.

My spouse says I tend to minimize. He's not jealous, because we are rock solid stable after six years. He's says for the sake of future "victums", I need to stop him.

The question was, am I going to be dragged into sexual harrasment stuff, or is there such a thing as "inappropriate" comments without an actual charge of harrassment.

[hapeewendy]

in my opinion what you were going through , and the details are NOT important , was sexual harrassment , even the smallest , seemingly joking comments can be sexual harrassment....

I'm all about joking and a good time and what have you but being that I'm one of the few "younger" nurses on the floor I've gotten my fair share of inappropriate comments, one such incident happened when I had only been working at my present job 3 months , We were transferring a patient from stretcher to bed and i was on top of the bed leaning over to grab the sheet and the porter said and i quote "wow I havent seen you in that position in a while" thought he was the funniest thing since seinfeld while I was humiliated, I wanted so bad to take it forward and complain but I did nothing , fearing that because I was new on the job I would be viewed as a "trouble maker"

well never again....

you live you learn

I'm sorry you have to work with such annoyances ... hope you get on to greener pastures soon my friend..

and as for your partners reaction , i think it was more of just a raw gut emotion that many of us would feel when the person we loved has been wronged, you want to act on their behalf even when they dont want to act on their own behalf, though I am glad he is not pursuing it , that would be tricky for all involved...

cheers my friend

[Jenny P]

I agree with Wendy on this. It was sexual harrassment when he kept asking you; it is a good thing that he quit; and it is wise that your S.O. is not pursuing it since that would rally be awkward for everyone (plus it would look very bad for you).

Good Luck!