Getting discouraged...Encouragement or Reality Check?

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First of all, let me say I love this website! I'm a bit addicted- check it out almost daily! AND sorry for the long post...

To start off let me say that I'm not sure if what I really need is some encouragement, or a reality check. I graduated from college with a BA in Communication in 2009. Now, I work in a job that a lot of my peers consider "cool" (working for a well known organic skin care company) but I personally find VERY unrewarding- and I hate (since Day 1) the office lifestyle. After college graduation, I traveled abroad and was inspired by the healthcare professionals I met who worked for Doctors without Borders. I began volunteering at my local hospital- the PACU adult and peds. I love it. The nurses are all so intelligent and it feels like I'm making a difference (even if I am only bringing a patient a blanket or changing linens, etc). I've heard from nurses that this a "dream" nurse job (Mon-Fri, less patients, etc) so I know the real world of nursing may mean night shifts, running around like crazy, TONS of hard work, etc- but i'm not scared, I know I can do it!

Getting into nursing school has been incredibly daunting! I live in SC currently and will be moving to Nashville in Dec.- ideally would like to work in a patient care setting but I have a job with a friend's business if I can't find one. Anyone who has been through the getting into nursing school cycle knows it can be tough! Tons of red-tape, paperwork, and lots of time waiting, etc. It seems like every school in TN wants something different! I'm moving there because my long term boyfriend has a job offer, I've only been to Nashville twice. It's extremely difficult exploring schools (online) in a town you don't even really know! He is taking the job, and we have to move. ALSO, my family has been incredibly discouraging about going to nursing school. They think I should be happy with my job & work on paying off my student loans (almost 20k). I am paying them off, but should I really do something I'm not happy with forever? I've heard of nurses being able to work shifts with differentials or overtime, apply the extra income to their loan and pay it off.

To sum it up, I have been making all A's in my nursing pre reqs (Microbiology, Anatomy & Physiology, etc) and think I would make a great nurse! BUT i'm VERY concerned about taking out more loans! I know the loan repayment programs are drying up quick. I'm also scared of going back to school and not being able to get a job! In addition, as much as I love Allnurses.com; some of the nurses (not all) can be very discouraging! Sometimes, I find myself crying just thinking I'm making the wrong decision after reading the Allnurses posts- it seems like many people on Allnurses.com hate their job OR can't find jobs at all! My aunt who is a nurse and two girlfriends who are nurses all love there jobs (one works in the ER, my aunt is a nurse educator/works in the NICU, and the other is in oncology). I feel like if there is a time to change careers, it is now- when I don't have many bills, no kids, not married thus a less drastic lifestyle change. Am I right?

My Questions:

Am I crazy for trying to go back to school?

Why do so many nurses (on this site) seem to hate their jobs?

Is it any easier for a BSN grad to find a job than a ADN grad? Esp. in middle TN (Nashville area)

Any advice on schools/getting into programs in Nashville?

Any advice on getting a job in a hospital or patient care setting in Nashville?

Any encouragment?

THANK YOU!!!

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

I think you need a little of both -- encouragement and a reality check.

1. Encouragement -- You seem to be reasonable in the way you are thinking about nursing. You're getting some volunteer experience. You understand your work hours a new grad will probably not be the same hours you see in the PACU, etc. I think your thoughts of becoming a nurse are not crazy.

2. Reality check -- You are $20,000.00 in debt from your last educational program. You need to pay that debt off before you incur more educational debt. Cut back your expenses dramatically NOW and make big push to get that debt paid off in a year or two. (Live like a college student -- in a small apartment. Don't go out to eat at restaurants. Don't take a vacation. Don't buy new clothes. Cut back on entertainment expenses. etc. etc. etc. LIVE REALLY CHEAP -- and pay off that debt before you do something really stupid and jeopardize your financial future.)

There is nothing wrong with delaying your nursing education long enough to secure your finances first. Use the year or two to keep volunteering and learning more about nursing careers. Then, when you are financially ready to return to school ... you'll be ready in every way to succeed.

Good luck to you.

Specializes in Family Medicine, Tele/Cardiac, Camp.
After college graduation, I traveled abroad and was inspired by the healthcare professionals I met who worked for Doctors without Borders. I began volunteering at my local hospital- the PACU adult and peds. I love it. The nurses are all so intelligent and it feels like I'm making a difference (even if I am only bringing a patient a blanket or changing linens, etc). I've heard from nurses that this a "dream" nurse job (Mon-Fri, less patients, etc) so I know the real world of nursing may mean night shifts, running around like crazy, TONS of hard work, etc- but i'm not scared, I know I can do it!

My Questions:

Am I crazy for trying to go back to school?

Why do so many nurses (on this site) seem to hate their jobs?

Is it any easier for a BSN grad to find a job than a ADN grad? Esp. in middle TN (Nashville area)

Any advice on schools/getting into programs in Nashville?

Any advice on getting a job in a hospital or patient care setting in Nashville?

Any encouragment?

THANK YOU!!!

The first part of your post struck a chord with me. I went to nursing school with the hopes of joining Doctors Without Borders, or Peace Corps, or something like that. But for me, personally, it's been very difficult. Life keeps happening and these dreams have been postponed, postponed, postponed again. I'm still hopeful, but it helps not having any expectations. If there is anything this profession has taught me, it's that "Man plans, God laughs" as my mother used to say.

That being said, I don't know you well enough to say whether or not you're crazy. :) But it seems like you really want to do nursing. I went to school, honestly, with the attitude of "Meh. I'll try this. If it doesn't work out, I can do something else." And I too had 20,000 in loans from my previous degree. So I got a bunch of scholarships, worked 3 jobs doing crappy retail-type stuff, child care, and EMT stuff, went to school part-time, and paid for every semester by check. No loan from nursing school for me! It was hard, but I managed.

I think nursing, for many of us, is easily a love/hate relationship. I can't speak for everyone on this site, but there is a lot about nursing that they don't prepare you for in nursing school: The sometimes extremely poor staffing ratios and resources; demanding parents/family, patients, and co-workers; all the red-tape required to work at any large organization; the sheer stress of even a relatively easy shift (not to play the martyr card, but I tell friends "A bad day for you is misplacing a file. A bad day for me means someone dies."); the often abhorrent lateral violence; and the physical toll this profession takes on our bodies (heavy lifting, quick often hardly-nutritious snacks or meal-breaks, and working night shift for example). That being said, there is A LOT of reward that can come from this job if you make it happen. I still can't find any other job where you get to combine so many things: Analysis, knowledge, creativity, compassion, patience, flexibility, education...and where you have a myriad of employment opportunities from bedside nurse to legal nurse consultant to case manager to educator (the list goes on...) if you put your mind to it. I also love my schedule. Sure, the nights can be hell on my body, but I frequently have up to 8 days in a row off without it affecting my normal schedule (ie, I don't have to "take time off"). And while the pay *could* be better, I don't know any of my other friends who left college to make $45K a year in their first job.

I can't speak for the BSN/ADN conundrum. I have a BA in another field and had a bunch of EMT/first aid-type experience when I started, but I am constantly surrounded by people with their BSN's and have been told that this or that place only hires BSN's.

But I don't know anything about Nashville other than the fact that I'd like to visit someday! :)

Hope some of this has helped. Good luck!

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