Working long hours to buy gifts for everyone... - page 2
My list is getting smaller how about yours? Do you give out a lot of gifts during the holidays? How many family, friends, or coworkers do you gift to?? ... Read More
Dec 5, '12My husband and I are devout Christians and thus refuse to make Christmas about material objects. We will not buy gifts for anyone, and request that no one buy any for us.
If we buy anything for anyone it is usually a donation in their name to Heifer International. For those who absolutely insist on giving something, we ask that they adhere to the "hand" rule ( HANDmade, seconHAND, or HAND-me-down)
I'm sorry for those who stress themselves out and end up not enjoying the season due to worrying about what "stuff" they should buy for others.
For us, advent and Christmas have always been quiet, reflective peaceful times; we worship, reflect, and on Christmas hang out make good food, drink wine and just enjoy family and friends.
And for those of you who may be thinking "That's great, but what about kids" We do have a daughter, albeit she is only one year.
When she is old enough to notice, we will do the following:
1. Explain that she is not getting gifts because it is Jesus' birthday, not hers
2. Explain the true origin behind Saint Nicholas, and that he is not a live person today
3. Leave food and drink out for the holy family, or any other "weary travelers", on Christmas eve instead of Santa (an old Irish custom)
Gift free holidays are possible ya'll- give it a try and watch holiday "stress" disappear.
Peace to you all during this blessed and joyous season
Dec 5, '12I use to try but with the cost of shcool my really small hours at work and lack of time to actually go out and buy those gifts I now only get stuff for my bf. my brother my mom & dad and thats it. Mostly because they are the ones that would appreciate any time of gift hand made (knitted) or bought.
Dec 7, '12I don't do obligatory gift giving. Not for Christmas, birthdays, anything. It feels fake to me. If I see something I think someone will enjoy, I'll get it for them, just because, doesn't matter if it's 12/25 or 6/17. Makes it more genuine that way. Occasionally if I find something and it's close to a holiday/special occasion I'll hold on to it for the event but usually just give it right away.
Maybe this makes me a Scrooge but mostly it's because shopping gives me a ton of anxiety. I am always terrified the person won't like their gift and it will all have been a wasted effort. I also don't enjoy receiving presents - I am a simple person and most gifts that people get me never get used, so I would frankly rather not receive anything at all. The most appreciated present is just that - presence. I would much rather spend quality time with friends and loved ones than have them waste their time and money on shopping. Also, kind, heartfelt words mean more to me than anything else. Tell me how you feel, what you enjoy, what you appreciate about our relationship. That is life-affirming, and something special shared between loved ones that no one can ever take away.