parumph, i'm in the kc metro area as well and debated adn vs bsn. am an older student with family obligations. decided on adn since is best fit for me. i applied to kckcc's program for fall 2011 entry and am now waiting to hear if i'm accepted. is my first pick program. there are several adn programs on both sides of the state line and you don't necessarily have to pay out of state tuition if you reside in metro area. check out board of nursing approved programs and their pass rates for both states so you can broaden your options (see below). i did not choose to pursue private schools or state universities at this point because of expense. my plan b is to go that route, but i really prefer not to because of the cost. good luck! nursing program selection is very individualized, depending on your resources, your academic records and your long-term career goals.
i think you're smart to look at other allied health careers as well. suggest thinking strongly about whether they will satisfy you, though, if nursing is really what you want. they too will have an expense of time and money.
kansas board of nursing
approved kansas nursing programs http://www.ksbn.org/cne/nursingschoolst.pdf
multi-year pass rates http://www.ksbn.org/cne/nursingschoolst.pdf
missouri board of nursing
approved missouri nursing programs http://pr.mo.gov/boards/nursing/schoolsofnursing.pdf
multi-year pass rates http://pr.mo.gov/boards/nursing/passrates.pdf