Ladies I've been married for 5 years and I have a two year old. I'm currently in school and work part time. I'm very unhappy. We fight 99% of the time. I dread coming home. we haven't been intimate in a loong time. I want to finish school. how will I make it on my own and have to support me and my child? Has anyone experienced anything similar?
God Is Mighty
Oct 13, '12
Sadly, you are one of many nurses who have faced this issue. IMO, I would wait until you finish school unless you are in an abusive situation. Nursing school
is one of the hardest things you will ever do. You need to be focused on it because you will be taking care of patients during clinicals. They need you focused on them & their safety depends on it. My husband did everything in his power to see that I didn't finish. I not only finished but made the National Dean's List. I graduated, got a job, & then got a divorce. I don't regret sticking it out another 3 yrs. I would do it all over again if I had to.
Oct 13, '12
Thank you. I sent you a PM.
God Is Mighty
Oct 14, '12
I tried to respond to your message but I have to meet the minimum required posts before I can pm. Sorry :-(I know you're miserable. If you can afford your home, utilities, car, car insurance, day care, groceries, gas, & attorney fees on what you make at your part-time job, then you have the hardest part covered. Next, you have to consider whether your divorce is going to be contested & is there going to be a custody battle. If so, plan on missing school for court appearances. The college I attended had a strict attendance policy to meet the required nursing hrs. I was 1 of 72 applicants out of over 700 that got accepted into the program. I couldn't risk getting dropped for absences. For me, I would have lost more than my happiness if I had divorced while in school. So, I waited until I finished & am really glad that I did.
Oct 15, '12
My daughter is going through this too. Fortunately for her, her spouse lives on the other side of the country due to his job. He is verbally abusive on a daily basis, and has done so much to destroy their family. They have decided to remain married until she finishes school. They both feel like he owes her that because of the way he's treated her. Plus, she will need to be gainfully employed when they are no longer married; he doesn't quibble about child support though. My husband and I are both nurses, and we moved to where our daughter lives, got jobs there and I watch my granddaughter through the week and work on the weekends so she will have free childcare while she's in school. Other than punching my son-in-law in the face (which I know would be wrong) I don't know what else to do to help other than encourage my daughter---I will say to you, what I say to her. Hang in there, it WILL get better. You WILL be a nurse and you WILL be able to find a job. You WILL be in control of your life. I've been a nurse for 30 years, and I have NEVER been without a job; they may not of all been exactly what I wanted to be doing, but they paid the bills until I did find what I wanted.
Good luck and God Bless!
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