Since I posted this, there has been some interesting twists. I went to speak in person with the medical director of the place I worked about these events. The conversation went very well. Today, I was contacted by that administrator to set up a lunch meeting to discuss this matter further. They said they were "sickened" by my bosses behavior and would like to discuss what action I would like them to take and what they could do to make me feel "whole". What the heck do I suggest? (I included the original post)
"I would like to get some perspective on this situation. I resigned a position about a year and a half ago because my supervisor made no secret of her hatred toward me to my face and behind my back. The situation had just become intolerable. Over the course of four years with that company, my preformance evaluations were favorable. I chose not to use this boss as a reference.
Now, I am in a new position and met yesterday with my present boss for my first year performance interview. During the conversation, my new boss tells me that old boss, who she new casually, contacted her (between the time I had accepted the position and my starting date. The conversation went something like this.
Old boss: Hello, is this the XYZ department?
new boss: no, you have the wrong number.
old boss: gee, this sounds a lot like my old friend, *****
new boss: yes, this is she.
old boss: well how have you been? I heard through the grapevine that *****, my former employee is going to be working for you.
new boss: well, yes she is, she will start in a couple of weeks. what do you think?
old boss: well, I really shouldn't say, but you'll find out soon enough.
New boss and I have a great working relationship with mutual respect. She gave me an excellent evaluation. She did not say this to cause me grief, but, it just came out in the conversation talking about my last year with the new company. Now, I am mortified and cringe at the thought of a former boss stalking me through the rest of my career. When I left old boss, it was six months before I accepted my new position and now a year has past since the conversation. What am I dealing with..a psycho?"
