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Time off for Funerals???

So I got an e-mail from a co-worker today asking me if I would be able to work for her so she can attend her in-laws funeral. I found the whole concept strange, as everywhere else I have ever worked if a relative (by blood or by marriage) died, you could either use FMLA or you were automatically granted 3 days off as some sort of "grieving days." Has anyone ever heard of staff having to find their own replacements in order to attend funerals???

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I worked with a CNA whose maternal grandmother had passed 3x in a year...Ai yi yi.

Hello! :lol2: :idea:

WOW.... Grandma was a real fighter :D

Where I work you get 3 days for immediate family. IDK who all that covers but I don't think in-laws or nieces/nephews are considered immediate.

Sadly, my facility is the same way. My co-workers husband's grandmother died, and they had to find someone to cover their shifts because it isn't immediate family. I worked for her. Who knows, in the future I may need the shift coverage?:)

My husband's grandpa died ON MY UNIT and I still was not entitled to benefit time. Seemed unfair when other people seemed to have 181 grandma's that died and they got their time off (the 181 is just an exaggeration but you get the drift).

My husband's grandpa died ON MY UNIT and I still was not entitled to benefit time. Seemed unfair when other people seemed to have 181 grandma's that died and they got their time off (the 181 is just an exaggeration but you get the drift).

Yeah- I understand what you're saying, but working LTC, how many flaky excuses have you heard for why people have to take off...? I'm not saying the need to bring in an obit is good.... but I understand why facilities limit who qualifies for 'family'.... otherwise we'd all be related to each other, and anytime someone made the news for dying, the whole place would call in!!

And my condolences on your grandpa-in-law- even if it's been a while.... the void isn't filled by anybody else :)

I know in the 2+ years at my current job we have lost my mom, my wifes birth mother and my wifes cousin. I got for my mom and the wifes 3 paid days off- but my boss said " take as much time as you need" With the cousin no paid time but will take care of you on the day you need off for the service.

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We give 3 days off for immediate family and we will honor time off for other friends and relatives funerals.

Keep mouth shut.

Call off day of funeral.

Win.

Keep mouth shut.

Call off day of funeral.

Win.

And when they find out you lied, you pay back a days' wages?????

I can understand not giving bereavement for every relative or friend...think about it...some people have families that are so large that they would never work if they were allowed off for every funeral.

However, I have never worked for a place that did not permit it for in-laws...the parents of the in-laws, no...but you should be permitted to support your spouse who has lost their parent or a sibling.

Reminds me of my own situation. My first husband died unexpectedly & I called into work after returning home from the hospital. I then called in the end of the next week & went to work the Monday after his funeral. I requested time (I was in management) to work on his estate stuff and to be available for our still at home teenager and was told that I was needed at work before I returned, I could not take 9 weeks of working 4 days a week, and was told to start clocking in instead of being salaried. A coworker told me to get my "ducks in a row" and start looking for another job, that this DON had the reputation of kicking people when they were down...and yep, she did....fired me. Said she had found someone who could be there 5 days a week. Oh--and then she fought me getting unemployment. What an experience.....

One of the employees at my work lost a child and a lot of people at work donated their PTO and she ended up receiving enough to take a year off at full pay. It was the second child she had lost in a few years. I couldn't believe how everyone pulled together for her to have this.

I am not sure our policy on how close of a relative they have to be. I will have to check.

..on a side note..this is why it is a good idea to have a life insurance policy, even a small one, on your children.

I never thought about it either until someone said, "If something happens to your child, are you going to want to take 4 days of bereavement and go back to work?"

Uh no...I am probably going to want to take a few months off if something happened to one of my kids.

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