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You did nothing wrong and handled it well. Please don't spend one more beating yourself up. Make management aware ASAP.

Horrible. The only good thing about it is that they are upfront about it so patients can decide if this is right for them or not. I find it controlling, sad, and horrendous. I hope these women have other options locally.

You want the staff to medicate for the patient's comfort not your own. Many families do this and it is wrong. It should have been explained to your brother that they were treating the patient's needs and not his own. It might sound harsh but it's true and often necessary for family to hear. The staff was right in this situation. They knew she was terminal and knew the best thing for her was hospice care as this point. Your brother should have listened. Surgery, tubes, etc. isn't the way this woman wanted to go. Most staff feels the same way. They see the needless suffering the patient goes through all for the benefit of the family. The focus needs to be on the patient and you bring in a social worker to help the family deal with their grief. Hearing someone you love is dying is so hard. In this case seeing as she went so quickly it is even worse as the family had no time to prepare. Help your brother to grieve his beloved friend. Assure him how much she loved him and how she is now at peace. Repeat that again and again to comfort him. I pray he feels better soon.

TY for all the excellent info. Very informative and helpful. As someone interested in this field I am so grateful for the breakdown of all you do.

I feel not one drop of sympathy for them. They knew what they were doing was wrong and did it anyway. They deserved to be fired.

That's not even minimum wage which is illegal. Ask them to put it in wirting and then report them to the labor board. They will never put it in writing because they know this is something they shouldn't do. The minute they changed your starting salary you should have known you were in trouble. This is a lesson learned. Start looking for another job today. This place is dishonest and unprofessional. Bad way to start your career.

Say NO. You don't risk yur current job and they should understand that. I've never let them contact my current employer. If they don't it's not the place for you and move on. Good luck.

You're a sweetheart. I truly believe he knew you were there and he was greatly comforted by your kindness and compassion. Hugs.

I've politely told visitors it would be in the patient's best interest if they visited another day when they were feeling better. Don't come hacking up a lung when a patient is so vulnerable. Sometimes they just need a reminder and it works.

I wouldn' take any job without pay rate, benefits, start date, shift, etc. in writing.

You should all be paid that hour. You should be paid for every minute you work. Also, for legal purposes you need to be documented as on the clock in the event of a lawsuit or worker's compensation claim. If they aren't paying you report them on Monday morning. It's illegal and they know it. They are taking advantage of all of you.

The ley to your decision should be how many patients you will have under this system. If it is 3 it's fantasic but more than that I'd be leery.

My friend's daugher had it and called the school. They said it's so common now they don't even send the letter anymore. My friend was pretty freaked out. We're clean freaks. Blow drying hair seems to help. After you get it all out and shampoo blow dry the wet hair. Give their hair a quick hot dry at the scalp and top of the roots every single day even when hair isn't wet from a shampoo. Seems the heat keeps it away. Also, tell your children not to switch hats with other children. They think some of it might come from children sharing sports hats and helmets thus the cycle repeating itself. If they wear a hat due to cold weather tell them to keep it in their own backpack and not a hook whether it can be put on by other kids in error.

I LOVE this idea.

Consider it a lesson learned. You now know not to take a verbal order anymore. We aren't allowed to at my facility due to issues like the one you just had. Best to cover yourself at all times. Don't be upset. Hang in there.

Go back to the nurse manager if this is continuing. Let her know you aren't comfortable not getting a proper report and it puts the patients, your license, and the hospital at risk if imperative info isn't passed on. Put it in writing if need be. The manager needs to end this insanity now. If the nurse isn't going to do her job she needs to be fired.

If they are allowed to disappear the whole day and aren't held accountable for it they will continue to do it. They should have been written up. They would have been fired where I work. It's unacceptable.

You crack me up. lol Great advice already given...you are a nurse not a male nurse, be neat and clean, DON'T lift more than you should, etc. Let us know what you decide.

I wouldn't be so quick to accept the lower hourly wage. Holding firm like systoly did could get you the higher wage and buy you some time. Call some other agencies and see what it out there.

That's actually excellent advice. Definitely make this call ASAP.

I'd make an immediate call the labor board. They have to pay you the hours your worked. I also don't think they can make the change in pay retroactive. Make the call and try and get all the money you are owed to date.

Most of my instructors were pretty good but I think almost all of us have put up with some that were less than kind, constructive, and helpful. I always told myself I just needed to get through x amount of weeks and I could be done with this person forever. I also tried to have compassion for them because people that are so mean and angry really aren't happy people. That helped me to see them in a different light and to realize it wasn't really about me. It was about them. I was very fortunate to work with nurses right out of the gate who were nice and wanted to help. As a new RN you are already petrified. You really don't need any more stress. You won't be new forever. Sometimes in the beginning it is best to bite your tongue a little. Take what they say and see if you can learn something from it. As time goes on and your confidence goes up you can let them know what you know and that their tone is less than professional if it continues long term. Hang in there. It gets better.

You did the right thing. Shame on them. And if some RN comes in and is dumb enough to do it they will learn the hard way when a patient sues and the DON feigns ignorance and says they never said this was okay. They will hang the nurses out to dry.

I would wait until help is in place before leaving him alone with Sarah. She's mentally ill. Can you put off your move until that time?

CALL OUT. You are too sick to provide competent care and you can truly harm your patients that are already at risk. Call out early enough that they can try and find a replacement. And hold firm if they try and pressure you to go in. You are sick and have no reason to feel guilty so don't.