I don't think I'd stay behind with the kids and do the program. Nursing school is really hard and it is going to be even worse if you've also taken on all of the parenting duties. Mclean is a lovely area. I'm doing my RN refresher at Northern Virginia Community College and have been very impressed with the program, it's organization, quality of professors and facilities, etc. Marymount has a BSN program, but is expensive. George Mason has a BSN program and is a state school. You'll have to get in-state residency, which is another year. The job market isn't great, but I don't think it's worse than anywhere else. Good luck. We had a similar situation in our family and it can be really frustrating to have to put your life on hold for a partner's job.