Would you have called out?

That is really gross of them to guilt trip you for that.

No, I wouldn't have called out. It doesn't matter to me whether or not I would be caught. It's about my personal integrity. I do not call out unless I am ill or have a family emergency, both of which, thank goodness, are rare occasions for me.

No I would not have called out. Your family needs to get a clue that you work in healthcare and that this is what your job is like. Feeling guilty isn't helping you either. Coworkers saying they would've called out wouldn't stop YOU from getting in trouble if you'd done it. If they want to spend time with you have them drive you to & from work and show them around a bit before your shift starts! That and quality matters more than quantity, so getting time with them at breakfast or dinner should count for something too. Also I'm noticing they came on a weekend, so why not invite them back in the middle of the week when you're off...

Good rant, Nonyvole.

Why, thank yew. Thank yew verra much.

And practical example. Late last night received the summons about a family dinner this week. I work that day, so I'm not going. At all. And I won't miss it. Sure, hubster and I will hear about it at some point in time, but my opinion is that they can either deal with it or die unhappy.

No. But then, my family was aware of what nursing would mean in terms of missed occasions, and we were a military family so it was already expected.

Family members who don't get, you can educate and if still, then it's their problem not mine.

Weird that several of your coworkers said they would have called out but wouldn't help you out.

No, not really, unfortunately.

This makes me appreciate my family. They've come to visit from Texas to New York, and I work every weekend. They've just occupied themselves while I'm working then we get together when I'm off. No guilt trips.

But no, I wouldn't have called out in your shoes. I take work ethic very seriously, sometimes a bit extreme(my husband jokes I would have to be dying not to call in. Not quite that bad.)

No I wouldn't have called out. I rarely even put in requests for time off for family. (Unless it's immediate family). Even then if my request was denied I would not call out.

Oh and the last time I called out because I was very very sick couldn't even get out of bed so my replacement actually walked out and said this case was too hard. (Pt wouldn't stop having seizures, which is typical for this particular case)

newboy, I'm sure by now you get the gist: don't call out for a shift for which you were previously denied the time off, period. Short of your own hospitalization, of course

Family and friends frequently WON'T "get it". Nothing you can do about that except to be consistent and firm with your policy on these things. Your policy should be something along the lines of "if I have enough notice of an event such that I can request time off, I will. if I am granted the time, YAY, I'm in! If I'm not granted the time....sorry, can't make it that day".

I have spent most of my nursing years working in settings that have required weekends/eves/nights/holidays. Thankfully I have what I call 'normal' hours now, although some of them wouldn't call it normal, LOL.

In the past, have had understanding family members who will ask if I'm available, will this date/time work for me. They either accept 'no' or look to reschedule, if it's important enough that I attend. I've also had NON-understanding family and friends who have become annoyed with me for not "going an inch out of my way" (as though leaving a gap for a healthcare provider for up to 10 people for up to 12 hours is only an 'inch' worth of trouble). I have had some who didn't see WHY I couldn't attend the baby shower that was being held at 2pm, when I had worked the evening/night before and was due in again that evening/night; after all, I WAS OFF, wasn't I? Sigh.

Boundaries, plain and simple. If your family can't respect your work ethic and your job requirements.....joke 'em!

No I would not have called out either, especially after trying to get the time off. Maybe you can propose another family meet and present weekends that you are available.