Shift work and dating

NurseGirl I can relate. I found one of my best friends and running buddies through Tinder of all places! We never went on a date and never flirted, but we just really work as friends. It's perfect! The guy I'm dating now I actually met on POF half a year ago. We never dated, simply became friends. And now we're dating (casually).

Also--this is obvious but I'm just throwing it out there--I don't let guys pick me up from my house. They literally have to know me for months before they find out where exactly I live. Plus, if the date goes bad, you can leave whenever you please.

I am one of the most socially awkward people alive and I met my husband when I was newer to nursing. I made it work. I was introduced to the two guys I dated after my divorce by friends, which made life easier. I didn't have to go on the prowl to find them and they knew I was a nurse and were friends with the husbands of my nurse friends. One was a dud and one I married. So, I guess my best advice is to see what your network of friends has to offer. My husband had to get used to my work life and schedule early on.

I met my husband on OkCupid while working nights, weekends and holidays as well. After we started dating, he would wake me up at 6 pm to bring me dinner (breakfast for me) before going off to my night shift. After he started staying over at my apartment, I would always bring him breakfast from work. It worked out great while we were dating. However, after becoming engaged, he moved in and we both decided it would be best for me to switch to day shift and now I love being able to go to sleep next to my husband every night. It is very much do-able, especially if you do online dating.

Good luck!

NurseGirl I can relate. I found one of my best friends and running buddies through Tinder of all places! We never went on a date and never flirted, but we just really work as friends. It's perfect! The guy I'm dating now I actually met on POF half a year ago. We never dated, simply became friends. And now we're dating (casually).

Also--this is obvious but I'm just throwing it out there--I don't let guys pick me up from my house. They literally have to know me for months before they find out where exactly I live. Plus, if the date goes bad, you can leave whenever you please.

I would add not to go to their place either. Just today this guy online invited me to coffee and then gave me the address to his place.

He seemed quite confused when I told him I wasn't looking for a hookup and he said he wasn't either (then why invite some stranger you've only messaged once over to place???).

The guys I have come across on okcupid have been very unimpressive, but I am glad it worked out for you.

I think I need to do a paid website. Eharmony sounds awesome.

I met my husband on OkCupid while working nights, weekends and holidays as well. After we started dating, he would wake me up at 6 pm to bring me dinner (breakfast for me) before going off to my night shift. After he started staying over at my apartment, I would always bring him breakfast from work. It worked out great while we were dating. However, after becoming engaged, he moved in and we both decided it would be best for me to switch to day shift and now I love being able to go to sleep next to my husband every night. It is very much do-able, especially if you do online dating.

Good luck!

I am extremely introverted but when I do go out, it is with family. I wish I liked drinking and partying..it would make things so much easier!

One trend I have noticed is that so many guys in my age group are into gaming. Nearly every profile I have come across lists videogames as a hobby. Not that there is anything wrong with that but of the ones I've talked to, they all barely work and dropped out of college. As someone who is working two jobs and planning on going to grad school next year, that is a turn off.

Video Gaming is a professional sports now...

If you are introverted, you might not mind a gamer so much... :)

I met my son's father on Match. I met my longest relationship on a treadmill at the gym. It's just about keeping your eyes open. You're not at work 24/7.

I met my husband on POF.com. We are currently active in MEETUP.COM, which is our primary social outlet.

All of those websites can be hit or miss depending on timing and your location. For most success I would join 2 free ones and 1 paid site.

Shift work is not your problem, you said you aren't super social but you will have to leave your house if you plan to meet someone offline.

Don't forget to let your friends know that you are looking...blind dates can be good.

Good luck, have fun and be safe!

The guys I have come across on okcupid have been very unimpressive, but I am glad it worked out for you.

I think I need to do a paid website. Eharmony sounds awesome.

Okay, Miss Thang. Are you as picky with men as you are with jobs? Somehow I think the answer is YES!

Another reason people don't go out as often is the cost. Dinner and a movie or a night at the bar will cost anywhere from 40-100 easily.

Meetup is an excellent way to meet people; going out with groups helped me foster great connections, some dates that led to great friendships.

I met my fiancé on MySpace.

He ended up being local-literally live 20 minutes from me-and I went from there...