cherryelle07

Great article. I remember my SIL going through something similar with both her sons. Her oldest was an emergency C-section and while she tried to breastfeed, she gave up quickly when she wasn't producing enough milk. She felt pretty bad about it and my MIL, while meaning well, told her she gave up too quickly. Fast forward 7 years later and she gives birth to her second child. This time, she intends to give breastfeeding a real try. We were discussing it before she gave birth and my MIL made it known that she felt my SIL gave up way too soon. I said, "Well hopefully the hospital can pair her with a good lactation consultant and if it doesn't work out that's okay. There is a lot of support these days." My MIL had 4 children and breastfed all with no troubles. I love my MIL, but I think she can be a little tactless. She told me that she breastfed 4 children without any support and SIL didn't need any of that. Never mind the fact my SIL has issues with social anxiety, so it's really important for her to be reassured and supported for her to succeed in some of the simplest tasks. SIL had her second baby and had a slightly better experience, but still ended up switching to formula about 8 weeks in, because again her milk production just wasn't enough. Sometimes our bodies just refuse to work with us and it sucks that the "Breast is Best" folks won't acknowledge it. My mother couldn't get me to latch, so she did formula with me. I was sick a lot as a child, but my immune system caught up and now I'm rarely sick. My cousin couldn't breastfeed, because she had a missing milk duct, because one of her breasts didn't form properly during puberty. She was really depressed about it and felt like a failure. The judgment has to stop.

I use to think my pee hole was my baby hole. But I was a child and my grandmother and mother kindly set me straight when I got my first period at 10 years old. I had my first gynecology appointment around then as well, because my first periods were pretty heavy and we just wanted to make sure everything was okay. The doctor explained everything as well. I can see how such a thing could happen. Especially with girls raised by single fathers. Men sometimes aren't the greatest sources for explaining the female anatomy which is why a lot of them rely on their wives, mothers, etc to explain it to their daughters and if they have no such source, then I can see how it gets glossed by. Then you have cultural reasons, society's discomfort with talking about genitalia, lack of education in general, etc. I wish there was a way to assist parents in these conversations without stepping on toes.

Sounds like a pretty emotionally draining environment to live in. I echo the advice on moving out. Sometimes, it's not the job. Sometimes its the living situation. I'm sure your parents love you, but sometimes you just need some distance. Same thing happened with my mom when I was 17. My mom had chronic pain issues on top of anxiety and depression and living with her during that time was almost impossible. So I moved in with my grandparents and our relationship improved tenfold after getting some distance. Her anxiety was putting me on edge and it really didn't help us have the relationship we should have. You need to be able to make decisions and live your life without a peanut gallery at home. You're old enough to live your own life and yes they are allowed their opinion and I'm sure you welcome their advice (When you ask for it...), but you need to make your own mistakes and find your own way. That's the only way we learn and grow. Like the other said... see if you can't get your old job back or look into getting on at another facility, once you've gotten settled in... get an apartment by yourself or with a roommate if you choose, and go from there! Maybe get into a bridge program and get your ADN or BSN. Might open some doors for you position wise. It's definitely hard to get in bedside at some hospitals for LPN positions. Even people who have connections. I had a friend who was a monitor tech for yeeeears. When he got his LPN and tried to get hired at his hospital for a LPN position and they passed him over for it despite his seniority. They did give him a position eventually, but it was hard for a bit. Now he's been offered a position in Arlington, Texas and he's moving there right after Christmas. So you never know what's gonna happen! Keep on keeping on!

I think you shouldn't worry. Your record speaks for itself. The facts speak for itself. Those questions on those applications are there to weed out the people who were found guilty. Putting yes just makes them look further into the matter and when they find that the complaint was found to be malicious and baseless and you were not found guilty. It happens. It should be illegal to make false accusations like this. However, the bright side is, if he does report you, you can still sue for slander and defamation.

From what I understand Trump wants to focus on the cost of health care and not so much the insurance companies. He wants to create more price transparency with providers to give the consumer more power and financial awareness when making healthcare decision. I think he also wants to allow for the sale of health insurance across state lines. Might level the playing field and give customers more options. He also wants to make it so individuals can use health insurance costs as a tax deduction on their taxes. Medicaid and Medicare administration will be given to the States with little federal overhead with incentives to weed out fraud, waste, and abuse of the system to ensure the people who truly need to coverage get it. Let's be honest, insurance premiums were rising long before Trump announced he was even running. While the ACA made health insurance easier to get, it did not address the issue of the bloated costs of equipment, medications, etc. I've had people tell me that they hesitated to get life saving treatments and medications, because their insurance companies refused to pay it and it was too expensive to cover out of pocket. Trump isn't even in power yet and people across the board have noticed their premiums and deductibles skyrocketing and that honestly has nothing to do with Trump and everything to do with the fact that insurance companies have no incentive to offer us affordable premiums. There is little competition in the current market. Insurance companies know they will retain their customers regardless, because there is really nowhere else to go. Most people have insurance through their employers, but those who don't really don't have many options and don't qualify for federal aid, because they make too much money. Many of them are self employed or are small business owners. So they are stuck with crappy Market Place insurance that really doesn't cover much outside of preventative care and health care in the event of something catastrophic and even then you are still responsible for thousands before the plan even kicks in.

I currently work as a PCT at a retail clinic where I will continue to work as I start nursing school. I will most likely go PRN and work when I have the free time.

I recently had this issue. I would agree with previous posters. Just let it go. Sometimes I have to remind myself how stressful my superior's job must be with a lot of the things they personally have to deal with when it comes to cooperate expectations for their region. It's not hard to get snippy or rude when you've had 500 things go wrong that day and you have to fix it somehow or face getting flack from your superior. Then there are some people who just don't have the tact to deliver constructive criticism kindly. He/She might think they are helping, but don't realize their tone or choice of words. Tomorrow is a new day and who knows... your supervisor might come in with a different attitude and it'll all be in the past.

My boyfriend is TERRIFIED of taking pills. He swears he's going to choke. He will suffer through a migraine for hours or pull a muscle at work and ignore it for days. I've bought him the chewable ibuprofens for kids, but he still won't take them. HTN, cancer, and diabetes all run in his family and I'm not looking forward to arguing with him about meds when he gets old enough to have to take them. I think the side effects scare him even if the more serious ones are extremely rare. Him: I read that ibuprofen causes stomach bleeding... Me: Yeah for people who abuse it. Taking it occasionally on a full stomach is fine. Him: But why should I take something that causes stomach bleeding at all?! Me: Did you hear anything I just said? UGH!

While I think its a great idea to provide a on-call house to nursing staff, they have a responsibility to either provide a safe, clean place to stay or reimburse you for a certain percentage for alternative accommodations. I assume by providing these lodgings they save money? Well if they refuse to address these issues, then they should offer an alternative option by reimbursing a certain percentage (What they pay in maintaining the on-call house most likely) for you to seek out your own accommodations. Or alternatively, work out a deal with a nearby hotel to offer rooms at a discounted rate. If you are going out of your way to be available, then they need to meet you halfway WITHOUT putting you in danger.

I think in certain areas there are. Think rural, border towns, lower income areas, LTC, etc. The less then glamorous facilities and areas. We will see where the job market is where I live when I graduate. I worry slightly, because I'm not in a position to relocate for work as I have minor children and my bf's entire family lives here. If I were single and childless, I would re-locate in a second.

I work in a retail clinic in a grocery store, so I a lot of times don't have a choice. We don't have a locker room to change in and the bathrooms are always disgusting, because the public doesn't know how to use the bathroom without making a mess. They're cleaned hourly, but there is always someone who comes in right after and trashes it. I will say thank god for online grocery ordering, because you don't have to go in anymore! I order my grocery and swing by to pick them up and they will load them into the car for me. Don't even have to get out. No squawling babies, no slow pokes, no having to wait in line at the register.... It's great. It really is. With Pea Pod it gets delivered directly to your house. But if I just need to grab some toilet paper, I'll go grab it.

ADNs are still hired in my area, but most are asked to sign a contract agreeing to earn a BSN within 5 years of their hire date. Luckily, I currently work in a position where once I get my ADN I can transition fairly easily into an RN role. I'm a PCT at a retail and they hire RN's for my role, but it's expanded to allow them to practice within their scope. We have a few RNs and LPNs in several of our clinics and they're nice to have and it helps take a lot of the weight of the FNPs at our busier locations. I would suggest looking in neighboring states and commuting or move away for a few years in order to gain some experience. The good thing about NYC is that it's so conveniently placed that if one wanted to travel out of the city for work, they could.

Personally I would consider nursing a blend of all 3 blue, white, and pink. Nursing combines aspects of all 3 if you think about it. Nursing is definitely physical if you work bedside, but it can also be white collar as all RNs are educated workers and some work desk jobs as managers, consultants, etc, and nursing does have a service aspect to it as they do provide a service to their patients via their medical care. Some nursing jobs are more blue collar or more white collar then others. It just depends.

I had a FNP who is also nursing educator tell me her first nursing job after her BSN started at about $23 an hour in our area which for her was about 5-6 years ago. So that's what I expect to start at or around when I graduate.

Wikipedia describes blue collar workers as people who work in unskilled professions that involve physical trades such as construction, HVAC, plumbing, etc. Nursing is considered pink collar since its more service industry based.

I think it would be a great idea if done correctly. I remember when my old church when I lived in Texas held a camp for children in the community and a lady who was an RN volunteered to be a "camp nurse" during the event. She oversaw the medications for the campers, applied first aid, administered CPR if needed, etc. But it was only for a few days. Not an indefinite long time. I would definitely talk to the person organizing this and make sure they have a lawyer look over the legalities of it. If it can't be done, maybe the church can look into working with the Red Cross to offer classes on First Aid and CPR and classes on educating the best practices on calling EMS and how to properly communicate with the dispatcher in the event of an emergency. I'm sure it would make every EMS dispatcher's life easier if everyone provided clear and concise information when calling.

Our clinic is located in a particularly affluent suburb. Most of the people who live here work for Fortune 500s, doctors, lawyers, etc. But we see people from all walks of life. We are kind of at the edge of town, so we see a lot of people who live in more rural areas. We accept Medicaid, but most people we see have insurance or can afford to pay out of pocket for services. Most people don't really comment or say anything. Most of the people I've talked to pretty much give our advanced practice nurses the same respect as a doctor, so they're not shocked to see an expensive ring on their finger. However, they're not like laden with jewels. My FNP wears just her engagement ring, but you can tell it cost a pretty penny. She's probably one of the sweetest individuals I've met though. You can tell she was raised in an upper class home, but you can tell her parents raised her to be a kind and genuine person.

Go for it. My former neighbor went to nursing school in her 40s and ended up working for the health department giving immunizations and educating people about public health. Here kids were grown and still living at home, but were contributing. Two out of three of her kids had good steady employment and helped out with bills, so it actually made it easier on her to go to school. On top of that her husband had two fairly successful businesses doing contracting and flipping houses into rental properties. My cousin is pushing 40 herself and is about to go to nursing school after she finishes her bachelor's degree in psychology.

I've seen some, but they're mostly advanced practice nurses with spouses who too make a similar salary to them. They're all younger with no children yet, so they have cash to burn. Which doesn't bug me, we're all young once and I think it's nice to enjoy your financial freedom before kids suck you dry. lol Personally I'm not a jewelry type person, because I'm allergic to most costume jewelry. My parents could never afford the expensive stuff that my skin could tolerate, so I just got use to not wearing jewelry.

I currently work a 3/4 rotation with my FNP. 3 twelves one week and 2 twelves, an eight, and six the next week. Alternating weekends. I like it, but I think I would prefer just 3 twelves a week, but our company requires alternating weekends. Apparently there are people campaigning to adjust the rotations so we only work one weekend a month. We will see how that goes.

^ Agree with this. Although I will financial social class DOES affect what you were exposed to growing up. Once you are an adult, it becomes your responsibility to culture yourself. With that said, I was exposed to a lot more then most people I grew up with. I know plenty of people who never left our hometown and I went on multiple vacations with my grandparents. While we give our kids everything they need, my boyfriend's grandparents are upper class and pay for my 13 year old's acting classes and often take my kids to theater productions, shopping at high end stores, and extremely nice restaurants. So their upbringing will probably be similar to mine, but not as much of a stark contrast. Except maybe with my son. His biological mother was a runner and they were always moving around. So he never had his own room and his stuff was always getting left behind, stolen, or sold. He didn't have a stable home until my boyfriend got custody of him. He's moved twice since then, but we've always made sure he kept his stuff and had his own room. He will not move again until he's an adult. He cried when we bought our house, because he had never had a home that was permanent and it meant a lot to him that our house was his forever home.

I find this topic interesting. My cousin grew up upper class and she's getting ready to start nursing school once she finished her Psychology Degree. I remember her first car being a little BMW convertible and carrying around designer purses. She's always boasted about her high end taste. My family often comments on her strong personality and the way she carries herself. I think she will be a confident and competent nurse, but I wonder how she will handle the more emotionally exhausting aspects of nursing when it comes to difficult patients who are rude just for the sake of being rude. She's not known for her patience with people. And with nursing tending to be clique-y profession and her not being a fan of clique-y, passive aggressive people... This could either be a disaster or success for her. lol

I will interestingly enough that I felt like I was raised in both social classes. Going from my mom's house where we often had generic store brand food to my grandparents who had the more expensive name brand stuff was interesting. I think having that sharp distinction affected my attitude as a teenager and I think it hurt my mom quite a bit when I preferred to go to my grandma's where I had my own room and TV and such as opposed to being at my mom's where I had to share a bedroom with my kid sister and take turns watching the one TV we had or even suffer through the sports games my step father wanted to watch. At 14, I didn't care who the Dallas Cowboys were playing. lol

At the moment, I consider me and my partner lower middle class or firmly middle class. With both our incomes, we roughly make about $50K to $60K. That will definitely go up in the next few years once I get my license. I personally grew up lower class. My mother was disabled and received disability. My step father worked, but made a pretty modest income with his high school custodian salary. He too ended up going on disability after Type 1 Diabetes made him go legally blind. If we got anything nice, it was because of our grandparents who were upper middle class. My grandfather worked for the Department of Energy and made a very nice living, so they were usually the ones who took us on vacation or bought us Christmas gifts that weren't second hand or from the dollar store. I don't resent my mom, because she did what she could with what she had, but we definitely struggled. Her and my grandparents had a complicated relationship, because they did contribute so much and to a lot of points of view, they indirectly raised us. I think it upset my mom a bit that my grandparents were able to give us what she couldn't.

Originally she did not agree with it. He got laid off and promised for 3 years to get a job before he decided on nursing school. She does not "regret" it. In fact, I believe she is incredibly happy for him and probably relieved that he did get such a great job. However, this doesn't mean her feelings about those 3 years just go away. She needs validation from him and they need to work through those feelings so they can move on. Like it or not, some people don't let go of things as easily as others. It would be wonderful if we could all be that way, but its not wrong to have lingering feelings from a previous hardship. What matters is how she deals with it and marriage counseling will help them both tackle these issues. Her regrets lies in the fact that she feels stagnant and unchallenged in her current career and she hadn't realized that she felt this way until husband graduated and got the position he did. Thankfully now she can pursue new horizons, but before she didn't have a lot of room or freedom to gamble with her career. She was the sole provider of 2 children and a husband in nursing school. She just now realizing how unchallenged she was professionally for so long. It's definitely making her feel some type of way. Its time for her and her husband to have a serious conversation about her desires for her career and make a plan for what is gonna happen next. I don't think it's too unreasonable for him to be the sole provider for awhile while she pursues a higher degree or certification or a newer, more challenging specialty. At the end of the day, the family will benefit, because career advancement means a more financially stable future and hopefully two happy adults who feel content with their careers and each other.