Cute_CNA

Agreed. The mental health of a nurse should not be discounted, or considered "hooky." Your mental health is a large part of your overall wellbeing.

She is (supposedly) a physician, but acts like she is your father-in-law's physician? If she is administering treatments to this patient, wouldn't that be malpractice, since it is NOT her patient? If she really does have a license, she should be reported. What a sad situation. Thank you for being your patient's advocate, Sheri.

That sounds like someone who would make a sick prank call instead of a professional dealing with patients. Who would do that? :angryfire

Is there any way that you can get the pt.'s wishes in writing? Perhaps he could get a lawyer? I think some actions need to be taken w/o the family present.

The "gift" seems inappropriately large, to me. Talk to your grandfather and find out his reasoning.

Good job!

:chuckle I knew what you meant.

I'm not a nurse but I also think your feelings are normal. It is terribly sad to see a person who was once so full of life just wasting away in an environment that doesn't seem as beneficial as it could be. You might want to consider a different area of nursing; it seems that there's plenty to choose from. I think it's a good thing that you feel compassion for these people, but your reactions to their situations might interfere w/your caring for them. Keep the compassion, just find another area of nursing in which to express it. I wish you luck.

Yes, yes, yes!

Exactly!!

I'm glad that there are more nurses speaking up for themselves so they don't get walked all over, and also can help make life a little easier for the nurses that come after them. Good for them. :icon_hug:

Oh my God. I would have been so ticked. I really hate that we are in such a sue-crazy world right now. Like it's the only answer. And I think the cause is greed. I hope nothing happens for this family to get an itchy trigger finger. To answer the OP's question, yes, my morale gets lowered because I think the patients' bad behavior is tolerated. Besides, it's hard to find a workable solution for this vast problem.

I think this was rather a rude comment, and I don't think you have experienced the things I have. And since you have no idea what it's like to be me, or know who I am at all, what right does that give you to pass judgment? Further, what does MY professionalism have to do with how I'm being cared for?

Don't forget what she said above... it seems that there were a few attempts made already to help this woman, but she just wasn't using the bedpan when given the opportunity for one reason or another. The OP was probably expecting the same result when the person asked the last time. So I don't think it was inappropriate to delegate. It sounds like it was "one of those days." Don't flame me for this, but I have to wonder if the woman asking for the bedpan several times wasn't just looking for attention. Now, maybe she did need to use the bathroom. But based on the fact that she complained that she wasn't given attention "one more time," makes me wonder if she complained out of revenge for not getting attention. I also wonder if she really needed to use the bedpan every time. Again, don't flame me for doubting the patient's intentions, but it does happen. There are attention-seeking patients out there.

Good job! I hope everything works out for you.

I'm sure you could type up a few things that you've found on the internet in an hour or so. I've done stuff like that. It doesn't have to be a paper, just make a list like you said.

Honestly, I would not want a male doing personal care, like a bed bath on me. Lots of people have pointed out that I'm attractive and young, and frankly, I don't want some guy to get turned on by caring for me. I'm serious. It might not be intentional, and despite how professional he is, I think it's hard for a man to not react to a young, attractive naked woman (depending on circumstances). I remember when I was 14 and went to a male gynecologist, and by the look on his face he looked excited when he was told he was going to give me a pelvic examination. How sick is that. But even w/o that experience, I still wouldn't want a male doing certain kinds of care for me. I think people should have the right to refuse care based on gender if they want to. I'm sorry that this causes you to feel discriminated against, and I guess it is a sort of discrimination. It must be frustrating, perhaps demeaning. However, I think the patient should be comfortable w/whoever is giving care. I would not want a student caring for me in some circumstances, either. It's one thing to give someone a bed bath, and quite another to do a pelvic examination. I'd be afraid the student might miss something a more experienced staff member would notice. That's my take on that.

If you can't find a list, then MAKE one after doing some research.

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Good job, HappyJaxRN. Thank you for being a nurse.

Pureed food is nasty. I've noticed that patients tend to get fatter when they come to the hospital. But there may be other reasons (like access to the snack machines and sharing food). Sorry, I'm too lazy to type anything of substance right now...

If she was confused, how did she know to do all that when "manufacturing" her candies? However, if this is true, it's funny.

I do think it is suspicious and unusual... not seeing too much of the OP.

I suspect that you need to be at least an RN before you go the MSN route, since you have no education in nursing. I don't know if you'd need specifically a bachelor's in nursing, since you already have one in English, thus having the prereqs to start nursing classes. But I'm not one to ask

I'm not going to pass judgment on you for how you feel. It happens. However, I strongly recommend getting a new preceptor, and limiting your exposure to this man as much as possible. This kind of relationship is not worth throwing away your marriage and jeopardizing the possibility of you getting your license and damaging relationships with kids. It's just not worth it! It sounds to me like he's infiltrating your thoughts significantly. Thinking about him is just going to lead to more thinking about him. You need to put your mind on something else, and quickly. Does this preceptor fulfill some kind of need that your husband isn't fulfilling? If you're looking elsewhere, that makes me think that you are dissatisfied in some way with your relationship w/your husband. I wish you the best of luck, and hope you make a decision that is beneficial for everyone. And by the way, people WILL notice that you're taking an interest in this man.