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Thank you everyone. I ended up going back for 1 day and had an anxiety attack not even 2 hours into the shift. Told them I wasn't coming back in until at least friday. Have an appointment with my doctor tommarrow. So nope, couldn't handle it. I haven't been there long enough for FMLA. Not really worried about the no money part of it. It is covered.

My husband has kind of said the same thing. "Maybe you should go see a doctor. I would say you're out in left field but you are out of the ballpark." He thinks with the way I'm acting I'm going to end up making a big mistake with someone if I go back. He keeps asking me if I'm alright and I don't feel anything but this uneasy feeling. If I cry it's only for a few seconds and I shut down again. I thought I should be crying all the time or yelling at god or something. And then the big wigs at work acted like it was going to be such a putout because I asked for 3 more days off. I don't want to be fired but I'm scared I may kill someone. Maybe not that drastic but with this job who knows.

My father just died last week from complications related to multiple myeloma. My mom and I were in the room and watched him pass away. I have to go back to work but I am afraid I won't handle it. His death was awful to watch. He started bleeding from his gums and we spent the last 4 hours suctioning him constantly. I see it all the time. I can't get it out of my head. Any advice on how I can handle this?

I turned in my 2 week notice which included my last day I would be working. Turned them in to my unit manager, Human Resources, ans staffing. (Policy was to turn into the unit manager but I turned it into the other two because of the tendency for things to "get lost")

I feel like I'm being pulled in a hundred different directions at once. First my dad was diagnosed with a bone cancer back in November. I was doing good at driving the 2 hour trip at least twice a month until March. I've been twice since then. My grandmother is sick now. Lives the same 2 hour drive away. I haven't been able to go see her yet. The doctors say she could have a major stroke at any time because of a clogged artery in her neck but won't do surgery because they are afraid she will have one on the table. My oldest child lives with her dad. I have every other weekend visitation. I haven't seen her in 2 months because the every other weekend I'm supposed to have off I'm not getting. I'm working 5 days a week with a mix of 8 and 12 hour shifts because there are not enough employees at this time to fill slots. I have two children at home both very young. I feel tired all the time. Even when I'm home I just feel tired and don't even want to leave the house. Can't make any plans in advance for the next month because our schedule for the next month doesn't come out until the last day of this month. Worried about my dad and grandmother. We have 1 car that my husband and I share. I'm slacking on the housework. (No I don't do it all) I don't know if leaving and finding another place to work will fix any of this. I've thought about it but not sure. I feel guilty about not seeing my daughter. And she has started complaining about it saying she doesn't feel like she has a mom anymore. My mother is starting to get onto me about not going and seeing my family that is sick. And my husband is worried about me being stressed. (Gee you think) So as someone on the outside looking in, what would be your opinion as to what I should do? I'm at a loss I guess because I am so close to it.

Does anyone know the minimum CNA staffing requirements for LTC facility in Tennessee? Just curious. I tried looking it up but I can't find it. Probably not using the right wording.

Wow. There is no way I would work for $10 and hour. I'm having a hard enough time working for what I do now.

When you actually have something planned to do after work (Dr. appt) someone will fall at shift change.

I applied and was hired 1 month before graduation. Worked as a cna until I passed boards. But that was 10 years ago.

Oh no I didn't go into detail when I had to explain why I left. I pretty much said we mutually parted ways. I wasn't what they were looking for and I wanted to use more of my skills than I was. So I told LTC.

Since she said she was going to sue the company with her cell phone pictures it was either get fired or resign. I had been written up once in the two years I was there for not keeping the house clean enough. Another time I was talked to because the house was so clean mom was worried I didn't pay enough attention to her child.

Surveyor came to check my cart. I've been off for 3 days but had just cleaned it and all before I left. Of course now it's a mess. Things together that shouldn't be. Then I guess I was so nervous after that I left my cart unlocked. Had to do my walk of shame to get my drawer back. So as I was leaving the surveror had my MARs and charts pouring through them. Guess after what they already found I'm a good target. Today has sucked.

Union? That's a dirty word in my facility. But I sure do miss it.

Thanks. I wasn't sure how to word it. I'm thinking I need a change from LTC before I get burned out. I love the LTC population but the workload stresses me out so much. When I'm not putting in for private duty I find it makes some curious and I got interviewed once because she wanted to know what it meant.

Congrats! Hope we do that well.

Same problem. But one side they're telling me to do something and then when I do I get reprimanded in front of the CNA I was trying to disipline!!!

I wouldn't know what number to give where I live. We have moved to a smaller area and apparently I automatically became worth 4.50 an hour less. If it was somewhere I knew I was going to love I would lowball a bit. But not so much that it would hurt my family. Edited for spelling

I'm thinking about going back into private duty. I worked with a client for two and a half years. Teenager with multiple problems. Family was a nightmare. The mom was very micromanaging and how she would want you to do something changed week to week. I made the mistake of getting to close and she totally took advantage. Having me come in at 3pm until 1am. Coming back at 6am to get him on the bus. Then back again at 3pm. She was constantly trying to play me and the other nurse against each other and suspicious that me and her boyfriend that was half her age had something going on. Totally ridiculous. Anyway had to turn in an immediate resignation because she decided I was "hovering over" my nurses notes one night. Told the office that I never got the clients blood pressure. She had pictures of this blood pressure cuff on her cell and if I didn't get fired she would sue. I called the agency a year and a half later. I'm not on the no rehire list. But I don't know if I should waste my time reapplying there. I have put conflict of personality as my reason for leaving on previous applications and am wondering how bad that looks. It's interesting to the facilities because I don't believe they understand it until I explain. But Private duty will know what it means when they first see it.

Usually I try to just "remind" them now that something hasn't been done. But we had state walk in the building that day. I don't want to get chewed out because I know it would have happened. I'm not doing the writeups anymore. From what I've been told after I started they get thrown out after you are called in the explain them. The weird thing is apparently I'm the nurse they like because I'm not above helping "wipe a butt" in their words. They're two other nurses. One just keeps her head down cause she's given up. The other that just blew her top is looking for another job. And I know to expect no help from the big bosses.

Depends on the month. Sometimes 4 days a week. Sometimes 5 days a week. Usually 7-3. The days change every month. Whether you get your every other weekend off depends on the month. I worked christmas and New Years last year.

A nurse I worked with blew up at every worker on our 2 halls. In the middle of the hall with visitors watching. Then turned to me and said "we need to get on the same page with these CNAs". We were working one short and everyone was trying to get it done. I was running down the hall making beds and helping get rooms straight. Putting myself behind. Then as she walks away she says "Ya'll need to stop making yourselves look busy and work or you can leave right now". I understand she is stressed. But to have that outburst and go off on everyone is just wrong to me. I've felt like throwing my hands up and walking out too. I get told to start writing a CNA up because she just isn't getting it. Late all the time, flat out lying to our faces that so and so refused this or that, and not touching people for the whole shift. I start writing her up and what happens? I'm called into the office with her present to explain the writeups and she is transfered to another floor. Nothing but drama every day. We're awful nurses because we can't get this certain paperwork done in time. Oh and by the way, here's another piece of paperwork we want you to do. And you need to get control of your floor even though you barely have time to look up some days. Well I saw what happens when I try to do my job of supervising. I have never been chewed out in the middle of a hallway by a supervisor in 10 years. I've been here 1 year and it's happened twice. We've had CNAs and LPNs leaving left and right lately. The CNAs when they just don't show up say they are tired of being talked to disrespectfully and the LPNs are tired of the unreasonable demands. If we don't volunteer to work crazy hours we are not being team players. A CNA told me that she was told to leave her child at the er and come to work her shift. Really thinking of leaving.

I give little pats on the back and an occasional hug when there is a resident that is upset over a death in the family or just plain depressed because they want to go home. I smile, joke with certain ones that like it. Every resident is an individual that has their own individual needs. Edited for spelling

I would have said "I'm the charge nurse for this hall. What can I help you with". Where I work we are all "charge nurses".

Out of 8 CNAs 6 are new. One of the older ones busts her hump. The other you have to track down. 2 of the new ones follow her. Out of the other 4, 1 wants to help everyone else at the cost of her assignment, 1 wants to socialize with the residents to much, and the other 2 I believe are trying but seem to have issues with either speed or time management. I have done some disiplinary action in the last week because I have run out of ideas. The nurse over the CNAs came up to me Thursday and accused me of trying to run all of "her girls" off. "You are going to have to learn that you need those CNAs because they will make or break you." And my DON told me that I need to "get creative on how to deal with this issue." I'm about ready to try to find another job. I feel like I'm setting up for failure here.

The last time I turned in my resignation I gave them to the DON, staffing, and HR. Miraculously all three were lost and I got a call the day after my last day from staffing wondering why I didn't come in.