Getting your need from someone else.

hell, no.

if my husband was vented and wanted me to go elsewhere, i would absolutely, totally refuse.

marriage is about serious, heavy-duty commitments, on many different levels.

this would never even be a consideration.

leslie

I believe what you are talking about is covered under the vow of taking that person for better or worse, in sickness and in health...

No.... just no. I can't explain anymore than that. No.

What a horrible thought. No way.

Please tell us no one is asking you to "assist" in filling this need.

Definitly Not! Some of these patients have had their disease for years. And it got me thinking if the spouse dates or whatever. I had heard something about Will Smith (actor) and his wife had sex with other people while during thier acting thing. This was their understanding. Like it was nothing. And it got me thinking what other people thought about this.

My thoughts; this is a highly personal decision that I am in no position to judge. A couple's relationship and any agreements they have with one another are between them, and it's not my place to impose my values upon them.

My personal feelings; for me, it would be like rubbing salt in the wound, if my partner could not fulfill certain needs due to incapacitating illness, and I were to fulfill those needs elsewhere. Besides, there are more ways to share intimacy than "traditional" sexual intercourse. A little imagination can go a long way.

i think it's easy for one to sit back and say "oh, no, never! not me! not in a million years!". However, when you are actually walking in the other person's shoes, things suddenly aren't so concrete and minds change.

Just to let ya'll know I'm not a freak or anything. I work nights with these patients and I have alot of time to think about things. Watching people sleep is a hard job. LOL

Absolutely not...if my husband were in that postiton, I would be with him and him only that is the promise I made to him when we got married. I am not going to say that sex does not matter, but really in the big picture like that...it does not matter, at all.

hell, no.

if my husband was vented and wanted me to go elsewhere, i would absolutely, totally refuse.

marriage is about serious, heavy-duty commitments, on many different levels.

this would never even be a consideration.

leslie

:yeahthat:

no one ever died of lackanookie, despite what every 16 year old boy in the world will tell you.

and frankly, i couldn't care less about what the freaks in hollywood are doing with their genitals.....99% couldn't even spell "faithfull" or "fidelity" with a 90 foot teleprompter in front of them.

that "for better or worse" thing----we meant it.:redbeathe:heartbeat:redbeathe