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First time posters

I'm pretty sure this topic has been brought up before, but why does it seem like so many first time posters get nasty when they don't hear what they want?

If they don't hear what they want they start calling you names and saying you are being mean.

If you point out they are violating TOS by having "nurse" in their username (and they are not a nurse) they get defensive and make it seem like we are being unreasonable.

Is the solution to just not respond to first time posters who obviously have no idea what nursing actually entails? The posters that seem to want the stars AND the moon... but if we did that then we'd probably get lashback for not responding. Are we just darned if we do and darned if we don't?

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    Have only read the OP. I think most of it is that people jump in to a message board without understanding the unspoken culture of the board. They unknowingly and unintentionally offend with their choice of words, then become defensive when it's pointed out to them.

    Takeaway - long established online social groups have a culture, with unwritten rules. Try to lurk a bit before posting.

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    Have only read the OP. I think most of it is that people jump in to a message board without understanding the unspoken culture of the board. They unknowingly and unintentionally offend with their choice of words, then become defensive when it's pointed out to them.

    Takeaway - long established online social groups have a culture, with unwritten rules. Try to lurk a bit before posting.

    Agreed and I politely pointed that out to the poster to whom we are referring. I'm guessing she diddn't take it well. Darn I wish I could have seen the responses.

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    Two words:

    cognitive dissonance.

    Can you expand on what you mean by that?

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    Agreed and I politely pointed that out to the poster to whom we are referring. I'm guessing she diddn't take it well. Darn I wish I could have seen the responses.

    Was this a thread that was deleted? Or the MandaNursePanda thread that was locked? Same poster or different?

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    Was this a thread that was deleted? Or the MandaNursePanda thread that was locked? Same poster or different?

    Yes. It was from a poster that wanted to do an on-line LPN program so she wouldn't have to "wipe butts" or draw blood and then go on for an ADN but be a nurse that didn't have to do the aforementioned objectionable tasks.

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    Oh, awesome. I'm sad I missed it.

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    I think that some first time posters may really really want a question answered, but truly only want a response that proves that they are right, or were unjustly treated, etc.

    This. It's human nature. Also if you lack self-actualization and you're posting to get likes or positive responses....well, it's gonna be a train wreck.

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    Yes. It was from a poster that wanted to do an on-line LPN program so she wouldn't have to "wipe butts" or draw blood and then go on for an ADN but be a nurse that didn't have to do the aforementioned objectionable tasks.

    Oh, darn! That thread got deleted? I was looking forward to watching it continue to implode ... :)

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    Some of this may be selection bias: you click on posts with subjects that sound interesting and maybe those posts are more likely to be inflammatory in nature.

    Or it's NETY. ;)

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    Some of this may be selection bias: you click on posts with subjects that sound interesting and maybe those posts are more likely to be inflammatory in nature.

    Or it's NETY. ;)

    I promise I really try to head things off at the pass for the new posters that have, shall we say, stepped in it. But I will admit I shamefully get a certain amount of pleasure watching the ensuing firestorm when I get a nasty response to my attempt to be friendly. :bag:

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    My opinion, as a mental health professional, is that some people come home from work after a very difficult day, have a few beers, then get on-line.

    Which they probably shouldn't.

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    My opinion, as a mental health professional, is that some people come home from work after a very difficult day, have a few beers, then get on-line.

    Which they probably shouldn't.

    That's when I enjoy it the most!

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