Thinking about giving up...Depressed :(

ShantheRN, BSN, RN · Aug 4, 2009

Have you tried explaining your grades to your school? A lot of schools will give you the benefit of the doubt if there is a traumatic event in your life. I lost my grandmother and mother within 2 years of each other so needless to say, I almost flunked out. I provided obituaries for both of them as proof. It's documented in my student file that there were extenuating circumstances that caused it.

Don't give up! Keep fighting for a chance to prove yourself.

BBgoose · Aug 4, 2009

I agree. Dont give up... believe in yourself. Always remember, everything happens for a reason. If this is something that you truly want to do, give it your all and it will happen if it's meant to. =)

RNpatterson · Aug 4, 2009

DON'T GIVE UP!!! I was in a similar boat... going for a degree with a great GPA... planning on applying to med school and then my mom died... Science classes went down to C's; GPA slipped to 2.8... then I applied to the university of michigan (not the nursing program - for my first degree) and I POURED my heart into my essays and I got in. I graduated with a mediocre 3.1 and that's what I had to go off of when I decided to go back to school...

Looking back, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I later realized medical school was NOT what I wanted; I'm meant to be a nurse... not for the pay or for the job stability... but because I want to help people and really make a difference and I feel it in my heart of hearts... It's passion. Are you passionate about nursing?

With that said... I needed two years to grieve for my mom's death but then I got back on the horse and I've got a 3.95 GPA and a whole network of friends. You need to explain what happened with your GPA in your essays; you might need to take a couple more classes to show you can get A's... but if you're passionate, it will come and you won't let anything stand in your way.

What sounds like a bigger problem is the pressure from your hubby to finish soon. Either he doesn't care (in which case the big "D" is inevitibly in your future) or more likely, he doesn't understand. Communication is key... and not fighting. May I suggest sitting down with him and expressing your concerns about the pressure. If he knows that it's part of the problem, he'll probably come around. My hubby didn't quite get it, either, but then I did just that. I sat him down and explained that this is the life I chose. I like school. Once nursing school is complete I will work, but probably return to school after a couple years... and then again after that. I then asked him if that's something he can understand and support and he said yes. Sometimes when things get rough I need to remind him I need his support and he promised... and his mood ALWAYS does a 180. I actually took a communications class and it drastically improved my relationships - it's so important.

I hope that helps. Keep your chin up and always be searching for what you want... even if you think you already know what it is. You'll either push through and succeed or something better will come along.

nrice28 · Aug 4, 2009

Thank you guys so much for the input! Yes, I am very passionate about nursing, and I took 3 yrs off (got married had a baby) and since ive been back i have made 2 B's and 1 A. I have 2 classes left (retaking Biol II and lab) and hopefully i will make A's. But thanks for the advice, I will go and talk to someone about my situation and why my grades went from a 3.5 to a 3.1. I never thought to do that b/c i talked to my advisor and she didn't tell me anything. She's pretty flaky. but thanks again, and your all right, I am not going to give up, I feel this is my calling and everyone I tell that i want to be a nurse says, that i will be a great nurse. I feel that grades shouldn't be everything. i wish i could get an interview and explain why the low gpa. Thanks so much, Natalie. :)

sfinn · Aug 4, 2009

Hey! Sorry to hear that you're going through so much trouble. I had a very similar issue. I graduated with a degree in Psych, but my GPA was only a 3.07 as well due to a death in the family along with other complications and issues.

I have the same advice. I would talk to someone about it and explain the drop in grades, but I would explain that if something were to unforunately ever happen like that again, you know what to do in order to keep your grades from dropping again. Whether this is true or not, it might indicate that you learned from what happened.

I wish you the best of luck!

MammaNurse2Be · Aug 4, 2009

Have you applied to the JCs in your area? Then, do a bridge at the 4 year university.

Nervous1 · Aug 4, 2009

Hi, I just joined here, I have been trying to be a nurse since 2002! I NEVER dreamed that it would turn out this way. I currently go to Kennesaw State University. I know that school is crazy hard to get into, but i grew up in kennesaw and my sister graduated there in 1999. I don't really care what school i get into, or even what program, I even tried for my LPN (but found out yesterday I probably didn't get in). I just need some words of encouragement. i am soo discouraged. I have finished all of my prereqs. but 1 at kennesaw, bio II lab, and I only have a 3.07!!!!!!!!! I had a 3.5, but my mom died and i messed my grades up. Now i don't know what to do. I feel like im spinning my tires, and I am tired of throwing my $$ away on applications. AHHHH!!! I am so frustrated! and on top of that my husbands pressuring me to finish school (like i don't want to, idiot!) Please if anyone has recently been accepted in ANY georgia school with a 3.1 please let me know. Or just any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading, ~Natalie:cry:

Not really the same situation but my high school (10 years ago) GPA was 2.0 and I got into my highly competitive LPN program. They questioned my GPA big time at my interview and I explained to them that I was young, dumb, stupid and divorced parents yanking me back and forth, so school was not on list of priorities. Try explaining to them the reason and it may help. Worked for me.

K.P.A. · Aug 6, 2009

Try Mercer...

nrice28 · Aug 6, 2009

thanks, i have heard that from several other people. the only reason i didn't before the deadline was b/c of the stupid $50 fee...jeeze :/

xcitednsgstudent87 · Aug 6, 2009

Hello, Im sorry for your loss. I know it can be frustrating, trust me, Ive been there! Just pray for the best and DONT GIVE UP! U wont regret it! Like shanfuturenurse some school's do offer grievance support for your grades

lavendersapphire · Aug 6, 2009

Dont give up! Have you tried posting this on the Georgia nurses section? I think there are some folks on there who have gotten in with a 3.1 gpa that may give you some insight. There's always the ADN programs at places like Georgia Highlands (I believe they have a Marietta campus) or Perimeter, or if you want to stick with the BSN, there's West GA either the Carrollton or Newnan (that has a part time BSN program) - I know, it's a little bit of a hike from Kennesaw, especially the Newnan one (I live south of Kennesaw and have relatives right outside Carrollton, so I know the traffic will suck on 75 S and I-20).

I know Mercer, Georgia State and Clayton State's applications aren't up yet (I think Mercer's may have theirs available to print), but GPC and UWG have their applications up and running. UWG starts in the summer though.