Suggestions wanted, please

stidget99 · May 13, 2005

This really pi**es me off!! How can parents do this to a child?? :angryfire These parents need to be reported to the authorities. Plain and simple. Too many times people are afraid of reporting abuse for fear of retaliation, of losing a friend or of being wrong. So what happens? The abuse continues. Children are dependent on their parents and families to protect them. If the parents are the abusers, then the children continue to be abused if people like your son don't report them. Society needs to take a proactive role in protecting our kids! Your son might experience some tension at work because of this but your son is better able to cope with the "uncomfortableness" then the child is. If the tension gets to be too much, your son always has the option of finding other employment. The child doesn't have the luxury of just leaving his environment. When I was a young adult, I was privy to a situation with a girlfriend's sister-in-law's treatment of her young daughter. The child's mother was very promiscuous and had many different men in overnite. They had a one room apartment and Gina saw too much. I reported the situation. Social services got involved. It ultimately cost me my friendship with Gina's aunt. But, in the long run, Gina was protected and that is all that matters to me.

BunnyBunnyBSNRN, ASN, BSN · May 13, 2005

If you feel the child is in danger or in any way being abused then report it. If your son is not comfortable with this b/c he "doesn't want them to know it was him" then ask him how he is going to feel when this child goes to pre-school and gets in trouble b/c (s)he touches another child in a way that is not appropriate.

I guess what I'm saying here is who cares what these parents "know"? They don't seem to know what the meaning of the word boundries.

Good luck to you, your son, and the child.

Sara

kharing · May 13, 2005

I would definitely report the family for sexual abuse and I wouldn't care if they knew that I reported them! I would not want to remain friends with such sick, immature and destructive people. Doubt social services will do anything, but it's good to get the documentation started regardless.

This morning my son, A who is 18, told me something that was disturbing to him. A visited a co-worker's home last night, and their toddler (between the ages of 2 and 3) came and sat on my son's lap. The child moved his hips up and down in a suggestive way on A's lap and said, "That's what Daddy and I see on them do on the 'weiner movie.' "
When my son confronted the parents about this kind of video exposure, ranted about how wrong it is and that they could get their child taken away from them when he goes to school/talks about this, the parents LAUGHED! A. said the kid made another suggestive type of motion with his hands in the course of the evening, then pointed to another visitor who was there and said that that visitor B had shown him the 'weiner movie.' I told my son he should report this to the anonymous abuse hotline, but he said after this, the parents would KNOW he was the one who had reported it. I then said that he should at least keep bringing it up to the guy, emphasize the importance of not exposing the kid to such trash. I don't know these people, and have yet to finish LPN school in August. Do you have any suggestions?

BunnyBunnyBSNRN, ASN, BSN · Jun 8, 2005

Blondiii,

I was thinking about you and this situation today. Any news??

Hope all is well.

S

gwenith, BSN, RN · Jun 8, 2005

Personally - If I were you I would report it - that way your son can honestly claim he did not do anything.

mtnmom · Jun 8, 2005

your son has a civic and moral duty to report this type of abuse. Who knows what else is happening or is soon to happen in that home. The movie might be just the beginning.

z's playa · Jun 8, 2005

Report it right away because what if these parents turn it aorund and blame it on an innocent babysitter? The babysitter must have shown the wiener movie !

Bla bla bla.

You never know !

Z

lpnstudentin2010, LPN · Jun 9, 2005

I agree with gwenith report it your self then your son can say he did not tell

elizabells, BSN, RN · Jun 9, 2005

Report it. When I was very young I was molested by an older child who had gotten the ideas from a 'weiner' movie. It's not cute, or funny, and it is abuse. I would attempt to get firsthand confirmation if you are going to report it yourself, if your son is concerned about getting blamed.

pedi-RN · Jun 9, 2005

I think you have to report it.

I know at school, there was a lot of emphasis put on the fact that nursing students are held to the same standards as nurses. And as nurses, if we even suspect any kind of abuse, we are legally required to report it.

What if someone else reports it, and it somehow comes back around to the fact that you knew and did nothing. We aren't required to have proof - only reasonable suspicion. I think you definately have that!

Do what is right for that child - and for your son and yourself!

Holli