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This is not worth arguing about. I may not have effectively communicated my point in my original post as you and the OP have taken a defensive approach. Now I'm on my heels as you have taken the "older sibling role". You and the OP should re read my post and see that I did not critique and was simply stating the obvious. It is MY advise and it's free. It is not required that you take everyone's advise. You decide. I'm out. p.

Read what I wrote and what SangriaSteve wrote and the way it was written... In no way was I trying to kick her while she's down and I didn't get that from SS. I felt it necessary to let her know that people will judge you in more ways than you might think. (as you've probably judged me). I took a respectful "older brother" approach and if it were me in her shoes, I would have appreciated the honesty and polite way in which it was brought up. A PM is an option, however this is a Forum and she had already typed the way she did. I can't possibly be the only one who noticed. I know she's not typing a term paper or anything, but... Not to mention the fact that you felt it necessary to call me, and SSteve to the table in this thread and chose not to send us a PM. I am here to help my fellow professionals and will always take a professional approach. Unless I am directly attacked. Which is the advise I gave the OP. I live by my words. p.

Check out this thread too. p. https://allnurses.com/men-nursing-forum/manly-scrub-top-466122.html

Probably make up is your best bet... Most hospitals have one kind of gloves they use. Wether it's blue or purple or clear is up to them. I've never seen anyone wearing gloves that are different than the ones issued by the hospital. p.

From a Mexican perspective... You can not change culture over night. It's inevitable, you will be judged by some Spanish speakers, they may assume you are a "POCHO" .Which is basically someone who refused to learn his cultural language. However, a brief apology and effort will go a long way and the explanation you gave in your post totally redeems you in my eyes. Learning your or any other culture and language is a great thing and can help you in your personal and professional life for the rest of your life. I speak Spanish as well as I do English and most people are surprized to hear me speak Spanish so eloquently. Culture is ever changing and more and more kids are refusing to learn and more and more parents are not teaching their kids. Your job is to excel in the field you have chosen and in your community. If it means you have to take some classes to make your life easier and to help people feel at ease, then that's what you should do. Regardless of the language you learn. p.

Lots of great advise here... You have better things to worry about than some offensive individual. You did the right thing by going to the DON. Just know that it may happen again and that you must be consistent. Remind her of your name and let her know you are not be called by any nickname. Let the DON know you have reminded her of this and If it continues report it again. Secondly, don't give anyone a reason to call you a dummy. I know this is an informal forum and you were probably upset when you typed out your post, but you really need to tighten up your grammar especially when defending yourself from a bully calling you a dummy and when your defense is that you are smart and go to college. (please don't take it the wrong way. I'm just saying... Make a case for yourself) I hope this issue is in your past and you and that dummy that likes to lie about her actions have learned from this experience. p.

I am not an RN, I'm a pre nursing student... However I do work in hospitals. I agree with most of you here... However, either way a family member can get my attention is ok with me. I feel I'm there to be of service and will respond to finger gestures, whistles, head nods, or otherwise. I think if it really bothers you, you should go up to the board where your name is and point it out to the family. I think we as a society are tought that hospitals are quiet zones and some families feel uncomfortable disturbing a room mate or a neighbor. Don't take things so personally and your life will be much easier to deal with. Just my opinion and my M. O.

I'm a pre nursing student and not an RN. However I have been in the healthcare industry almost 20 years. I like the concept. The RCFEs I have visited strive to mimick a home like environment and some do better than onters. I think with any new model, you are going to have negative feedback. It's human nature, we have a hard time adjusting to change. However, the people that mame a difference in a project are usually new to it and open minded about it. Don't let anyone drag you down with negativity. You keep doing what you believe in and hope the others have a moment of clarity. p.

I have several aquaitences in law enforcement. They tell me they ALWAYS let nurses off with a warning (for infractions of course). They say "you never know when you will need that nurse's help. What if they remember you were the one that gave them a ticket". I can't speak for them of course and I agree... Speeding in general should not be common practice. And if you're on call you should be near the hospital. p.

Although my initial comment was meant in humor. I was doing so out of ignorance... I took the time to Google Greenhouse Nursing and Wikipedia educated me. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_House_(nursing_home) I don't think we have these in San Diego... We have RCFEs but they are not exactly the way Wikipedia describes a Green House. Usually it's a private home that has been adapted to care for an elderly person/s (usually 4-6...private vs semi-private rooms). Sorry I don't have an answer to your question I just thought it might help others that are not familiar with the term. p.

30 years from now... Tribal tattoo guys will be in their sixties... And trampstampers should be ripe cougars. Shouldn't be too bad to look at. LOL. Now... 50 years from now they'll be in their 80s. Todays ink is much better than you see on your Korean war vet today. The ink now barely fades which means tattoos will remain as cool as ever even if the body isn't. p.

Cat... I can tell you are a caring person and that's why you feel like you should be doing something about your patient's bleeding. However, you also have to remember that when a patient elects to receive Hospice services they are choosing to allow themselves to follow a natural dying process. That means no heroic measures and usually no treatment that will result in "curing" or "fixing" a condition. This is where Palliative care comes in. The palliative care you provide is as the above posters have mentioned. Keep her clean, and comfortable. I have seen patients like yours choose to go home and pass there with their family and the RN's I've worked with will most often reccomend that the family purchase several sets of black linnens and black towels. The black minimizes the visual impact the blood has and is usually a palliative measure the family benefits from. Remember that your patient and her family are mostly concerned with her comfort. Good luck in your hospice carreer. It is extremely rewarding once you realize that hospice care to the patient is about LIVING and not about dying. p.

Were you looking for the Botany department? lol. p.

The way I see it... You have nothing to loose. It's like asking someone out on a date. She's either going to say no or yes. So why not just make the effort? Personally, I would gather all my paperwork and go visit her. I would tell her I had sent them in but wanted to hand her a copy in person. Heck... She may very well remember you by site but not by name. Or her secretary may have "missplaced" the paperwork. You never know. Dress nice and be professional. I think if you are interested in the job, you should make the effort and not just leave it to chance. p.

I work in San Diego... In the heathcare industry... I'm not a nurse yet but I know plenty of them. The tides are changing when it comes to tattoos. I have tattoos and my tattooist tells me he has tattooed many nurses and in visible places. I have seen many healthcare workers with tattoos even MDs. I think the day when not having a tattoo will be the exception is near. p.

For the last 5 years I worked in a hospital setting for a local Hospice provider. I have been to ALL the hospitals in San Diego County. And I've noticed that the tides are changing. There are some hospitals that are figuring out that the RN is MOST important when it comes to charting accurately, dispensing medications accurately, accurate order taking and assessing patients accurately. It seems that if an RN is busy cleaning poop some of these other responsibilities might suffer. I noticed that this particular hospital has RNs(that support the patient/MD), LVNs (that support the patient/RN), CNAs (that support the patient/LVN/RN), and Techs(that support CNA/LVN/RN/patien) This model works great in my eyes as the RN is there to guide the patient's care and to make sure all the needs are met. Poop is rarely an RN's concern. Guess where I want to work? LOL. p.

I don't think it should matter... However we all know it does. If that is who you are and you are unwilling to change who you are... Then fight the fight. I wear earings and plan to keep wearing them once I'm an RN. p.

My two words are not permitted on this forum... So I will just say that the OP has probably recently "found himself" or has recently found himself alone. I say good for him. If this is what it took to bring you to self realization, you are ahead of many of us. However we are all diffent and in so many ways. If you must define yourself with one word, you have not yet found yourself. I am a man... I am a pretty big (6'3" 260lb) Mexican guy with tattoos and a goatee, I carry a pocket knife(sometimes 2), I know martial arts, I'm an ex bouncer, I play paintball, I drink beer, and enjoy a nice cigar from time to time. I'm into cars and I'm not affraid of you.... So I'm a bad boy. I'm into electronics and techie stuff(computers, cell phones and gadgets), I'm somewhat of an audiophile and love to tinker with stuff, I like golf (and even watch it on tv)... So I'm a nerd. I work in healthcare and am a pre-nursing student... I'm happily married, love my wife (and she responds to me because I respond to her), and my 4 sons, I love to cook (and cook most every night), I help out with the chores at home, I go shopping with my wife, I hold her purse if she's in the dressing room (come take it from me. lol), I roll a tear at movies that touch my caring side.... So I'm a wuss. This is what makes ME who I am a complex, multi-faceted individual. MAN... That's my gender.

Shay, I know exactly how you feel. I have many stories like yours as I worked for San Diego Hospice for 5 years. The inpatient care center is the best place to be if you want to feel rewarded for you work as a patient advocate. I workied in the admitions department as a program representative. I was San Diego Hospice to the patient and the families, untill the nurse would take over the patient's care. The work you Hospice RN's do is nothing short of amazing. I am not yet an RN but and working towards it and look forward to some day going back to SDHPC (San Diego Hospice and Palliative Care). p.

I think Spanish is a good language to brush up in. However, it totally depends on where you will be working. it might not come in that handy in Mississippi but you would be golden in San Diego. p.

I've heard of people who leave their employment and survive on grants and loans alone. I have a family and a full time jnob. It would be great to quit and focus on school. I'm gonna look further into this. p.