Phasing Out

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Well I guess I will be phasing out my time spent on the computer. My wife feels that I spend too much time on the computer that I could be spending with her. I don't feel like I really spend that much time online but I do get on allnurses quite a bit and read and post. I check my mail at least daily and look at my bank accounts and a few other things. I do all my library business online except for actually going to the library to get the items I request while online. I work 12 hour shifts and usually on work days spend about an hour after I get home online. On my days off I do spend quite a bit of time online but everybody else is working so there is nothing to do. I still do accomplish things around the house including helping with laundry and general cleaing on my days off. I am a man so NO I don't clean like a woman (no offense) I mean I don't dust or rearrange things or do windows, but I pick up in general do dishes and wipe off counters, vaccum occassionally, make the bed, take out the trash. I don't know I guess I'm just sort of venting here.

anybody else get this from spouse or S.O. "you're addicted to the computer!"

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Specializes in OB, House Sup, ER, Med Surg.

My husband would love to just have out internet disconnected and computer thrown out the window. He thinks ANY amount of time spent on it is wasted.

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I don't think my wife consdiers is that not all of my time on the computer is online even. I write a lot of articles and things and some of the time I spend on the PC is used writing articles, and short stories. I guess I will have to do this more when she is not here to feel ignored by my PC time.

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Good topic! My husband spends a lot of time on the computer. Our computer is in our family room, so we are in the same room at least.

Here's the way I look at it. My husband is a great man. He does all the laundry, grocery shopping, and he cooks often. He is a military man, and is very disiplined and organized. He treats me like a queen. He works at the Pentagon from 0530 to 1700 Monday thru Friday.

If his outlet is to spend time on the computer, who am I to complain?! Every now and then I will say something, but I look at this like his hobby. He deserves to have that time doing something he enjoys.

I think it boils down the to quality of time he spends with me when not on the computer, not the amount to time he is with me. Gotta go, he is asking to get on the computer.

:)

CCU NRS, I hope you keep posting as often as you do, I always enjoy your opinions.

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My husband used to get on to me about time on the computer. Then I got hurt and he had to go to work full time for the first time in 7 years, night shift to boot. Now I can spend as much time as I want on it.Heh, heh, heh.....

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Specializes in Community Health Nurse.

Don't leave for good, just cut back. Spend some awesome time with your wife, ovewhelm her with your presence, and give her so much of you that she will beg you to return to Allnurses.com just to give her a much needed break from your new obsession with her all of a sudden. :D

Am I naughty or what? :roll :kiss

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Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health.

Well, my hub is obsessed with his TV... hard to grab his attention, and I HATE having to talk OVER the TV to be heard. And it's on from the minute he wakes up 'til he goes to bed.

At least he doesn't watch junk shows.. it's usually golf, politics,

weather, history channel or Discovery.

I used to ride him about what little time we actually spent communicating/interacting... but soon gave up.

Then I got my computer... my answer to his TV.

And now guess who comes into my room teasing me about how much time I spend on the pooter !!! :rolleyes:

Ah well... to each his own. Let him enjoy his, I'll enjoy mine. We're both happy. :D

What time we do get away from our toys and spend together is great, so no complaints either way.

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Specializes in ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89.

Ahhhh jnette a girl after my own heart. Hub just finished subscribing to every thing (save sports) that directv has to offer. I don't think there's a film made he hasn't seen.

Wireless keyboard, mouse and nice reclining chair would make my puter life perfect. As it is Im up, down, up down. The hours of TV I watch a week would fit on less than one hand. I do catch JAG and CSI...maybe an ER or two. Otherwise surfin'

He does most of the domestic stuff now he's retired and he treats me as if I am the wife of the century. He's the greatest.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

I'm doing a combined BSN/MSN online - so I'm on the computer quite a bit. My hubby works fulltime days (teacher) and I work 12 hour days (or will come the start of the new year - right now I work nights). Our sons are grown and moved away from home. Hubby has his own computer in the same room as mine - so we IM each other - kinda dumb I know!

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

I'm on the computer in spurts throughout the day. But kind of like jnette's husband mine watches TV. I rarely watch tv. So while we have downtime it would be nice to spend it together, but he's watching TV, I'm on the computer or reading a book. I think he's the one feeling guilty because he constantly comes to give a hug and say "I love you".

Perhaps you can spend time on the computer while she's doing chores, or out, or something. Tend to the relationship first. But if the computer is your hobby, your fun, it's not reasonable for you to give it up completely.

Of course you're not going to any support from us addict here. LOL. Especially not me whose pushing 4000 posts.

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Specializes in MS Home Health.

My hubby is a nurse and says the same thing about me LOL. To bad. This is my only hobby right now.

LOL,

renerian:D

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