I feel so bad.

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Specializes in Medsurg, home health, ob and rehab.

this is my situation. I recently left a rehab job due to bad conditions at work, which have recently improved, so im told, i got another job in medsurge at another hospital. I was hired on the spot, that should have been a red flag, anyway ive been there a month. im still in orientation, however i realized medsurg is not for me. i made a mistake. I ve done medsurg before as a new nurse, didnt like it then, dont like it now. but i had decided to try again. shame on me. well i was on medical leave from the rehab job when i got the medsurg job. it didnt occur to me that this could be a problem. they did not tell me that when i resigned. now that i realized medsurg is definatly not for me, i asked for my old job back. the rehab manager said yes but the don and hr told her it was up to her and the only issue is that i left while on eib. that labled me as ineligible for rehire. however the rehab manager dicided to give me another chance, thank god. i only have to fill out a new application, but since it has not been 3 months since i quit, everything would just pick up from when i left, like pto and benifits. Im very happy to have my old job back. The hr director did not look too impressed when i picked up the application. Now i have to tell my boss at the medsurg job. not looking forward to that and scared. i feel like crap and im so guilty, i dont know why i feel this way. im sure she will tear me a new one when i talk to her. I am schelduled to work this weekend, but dont know if i need to put in a 2 wk notice since im still in orientation. i tried to call her early this am but she was not in yet so left a message for her to call me back. well its been 3 hours, no call back, dont even know if shes going to work today. i will get in touch with her today somehow. im just so darn scared and guilty for doing this, but i just cant work medsurge, its too much for me. i am a nervous wreck at work, have so much anxiety about it.

i dont sleep well and dread going to work. does any one have advise on how to tell this manager i quit? i need help. fast. :crying2:

Specializes in PICU, Sedation/Radiology, PACU.

I'm a believer that important conversations, such as resignations, should be done in person if at all possible.

Definately write a resignation letter. Give two weeks notice, but explain that you will understand if they do not want you to continue orientation. Also state this to your manager.

Just explain that you are very sorry, but you are not a good fit for the position and you feel it would be best for everyone if you left now. Thank her for the opportunity to work there.

Conversations like these are tough and can be scary, but remember that they rarely go as poorly as we anticipate.

Good luck!

Specializes in Medical Surgical Orthopedic.

I think they were very generous to allow you back. Use your "feeling bad" to motivate you to be more responsible. You're going to run out of bridges to burn in no time if you keep this up.

Specializes in Med Surge, Tele, Oncology, Wound Care.

I don't see why you would give a two week notice while on orientation. I would think it would be a waste of the facilities money to keep you on and train you for 2 weeks just to have you leave. It won't make you appear any better of an employee to give a notice.

There was a reason you left and applied for this new job.

The grass may not be greener on the other side.

I am sure your old employer is taking note of your job ethics- new job on a leave, asking to come back to them after starting at the new facility. I don't think you are going to get off that easy, they may not make it a nice experience when you go back. Be prepared for that.

Specializes in Medsurg, home health, ob and rehab.
I don't see why you would give a two week notice while on orientation. I would think it would be a waste of the facilities money to keep you on and train you for 2 weeks just to have you leave. It won't make you appear any better of an employee to give a notice.

There was a reason you left and applied for this new job.

The grass may not be greener on the other side.

I am sure your old employer is taking note of your job ethics- new job on a leave, asking to come back to them after starting at the new facility. I don't think you are going to get off that easy, they may not make it a nice experience when you go back. Be prepared for that.

I am prepared for that. I dont think staying at the med surg job is good for my sanity, im constantly worried if i did everything, did not forget something charted everything, if im going to finish all my work on time. I had a lot of anxiety and stress with this job. i did think the grass was greener on the other side, but i was wrong. i said it before and ill say it again, i made a mistake to leave rehab, im very gratefull to have the job back.

Specializes in LPN.

It's sounds to me like you are insecure when it comes to your work. You need to find a way to make yourself feel more confident in the work that you do. You went through schooling, passed the test. You made it! Why not feel good about the work you do and try not to worry too much. Alot of the time when someone worries so much on the job, they end up making more mistakes. So try to find some way to calm yourself down before work. It seems like you are skipping from job to job b/c of the fact you don't want to work at all. Sorry, not trying to sound harsh in any way, I am just stating how it sounds from your post. Even try speaking to someone you work with over this. There are many nurses out there that worry also, but they get by. If med/surg isn't your specialty, that is all fine, but what would you like to do as a nurse. What kind of job. I would think about all of these things before jumping into the next job that is willing to hire you. There are plenty of jobs, so you don't have to settle for any, but at least know what you are wanting to do as a nurse. Hope this helped.

Specializes in ICU.

Don't quit till you get rehired officially. You don't want to be without a job.

Specializes in LTC,med-surg,detox,cardiology,wound/ost.

ashepard gave you the best response! Do not feel guilty that you quickly realized you are not a good fit for the job. Personally, I think you were a warm body when you were hired to the med-surg unit. Leave graciously and under good terms, offer to work the final 2 weeks. Next time when there are problems at work, try to hang on and offer to be a part of the solution instead of being so frustrated that you want to leave. And never burn bridges- you never know who you will work with in the future.

Specializes in Medsurg, home health, ob and rehab.
Don't quit till you get rehired officially. You don't want to be without a job.

my rehab manager told me all i had to do was fill our a new application and turn it in to her, and i can start my regular shift next week on my days to work.

Specializes in pediatrics, public health.
my rehab manager told me all i had to do was fill our a new application and turn it in to her, and i can start my regular shift next week on my days to work.

A verbal job offer is worth the paper it's written on. Wait until you have it in writing!

the only thing i'll add, is give the choice to your current employer...

would they prefer for you to leave asap, or stay for another 2 weeks?

the very least you could do, is try and accommodate your employer's needs/wishes.

anything less, would be most ungracious, i.e., downright tacky.

leslie

Specializes in LTC,med-surg,detox,cardiology,wound/ost.

Whatever happens, if this is an internal transfer, your HR Dept will need to follow through and make sure the way you are transferred will fulfill the rules as well as needs of the units involved.

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