Do you have a Weasel at work?

I gotta say this and will probably get flamed for it but here goes:

I was called a brown noser for something others did not understand. My old manager and I used to hang together quite a lot but the deal was she and I became really good friends. we used to do lots of things together like taking our kids camping stuff like that. And it was hurtful to hear the things the rest of the staff said. Upper managment eventually said something to her and socially we had to back off and I felt like I had lost a close friends because of it. I just thought it was petty and underhanded the way it was handled.

Okay that is all I have

Sorry this happened to you, and I agree that this is extremely petty.

As long as you were doing your job well, not gossiping about work, and the manager was doing her job without bias it should have not been an issue.

There are situations everywhere with "weasels" who are not doing their job and only trying to get others in trouble thru fake boss friendships.

But labeling all boss/employee friendships as such is petty.

Unless you are directly being affected by a situation, then gossiping about it and/or insinuating that "there must be something more to this" is certainly not supporting your fellow health care team members.

If a true "weasel" exists, and isn't supported with ammunition, they will go away pretty quickly. Do your job, support the team and concentrate on what really matters, your patients.

Hugs!

MaryRose

I think it's very inappropriate to hang out with your manager; it creates bad feelings for the rest of the staff, even though you don't mean for it to. This may just be me, but, I don't like workplace fraternization between a manager and one nurse she/he directly supervises......we had one a manager who made friends with one of our young nurses, and it did not earn her respect from the rest of the staff.

Now, going to lunch or dinner or some other social event, as a group, I can see. Hanging out and making best friends with one nurse is not a good idea for any manager. I know you did not mean to be a brown-noser, being her friend, but that is the perception other staff get anyhow, when such relationships form in the workplace. It's not fair, but it is business.

If you are that close to your manager, -----you are truly friends, it's probably best for everyone, for you to move a another unit where she/he is not directly supervising you. Then, no one would care if you were friends or not. I am sorry you were hurt. Upper management/administration probably DID say something to the manager, as you suspect. It's about what is appropriate in the workplace, and what is not.

One of my life long policies is to never mix business with pleasure and socialize with the people I work with, after hours!!!! :uhoh21:

That's a bit of a problem if you live in a town of 600 people and work at a small rural hospital. :chuckle

steph

Keep you friends close and your enemies closer........ that what I 've heard.....

That's a bit of a problem if you live in a town of 600 people and work at a small rural hospital. :chuckle

steph

Been there, done that Steph, I used to live in a very small town up in Sierra County. Lived there for 16 years after I got married. It was a nice friendly town where everyone knew everyone else or was related to everyone else. Loved the fact that it was nice and quiet but didn't like the fact that everyone knew everyone's business and the hospital where I worked at was a hot bed of gossip. No confidentiality there. That's why I saw providers in Reno instead.

One of my life long policies is to never mix business with pleasure and socialize with the people I work with, after hours!!!! :uhoh21:

I agree.

Who doesn't? LOL, yep unfortunately there are always people like that no matter where you work. Atleast, you know what you are dealing with and what the story is with this person. It's the ones that pretend to like you and then go behind your back that I'd worry about. I always think that when I hear somebody talking about another person but when in front of that person they act buddy buddy, this kind of person probably does the same thing to me. I tend to not say anything and walk away because I don't want to get caught up in all the bull. Just be careful of what you say in front of this person since people like that tend to take a completely innocent conversation and turn in around, then the drama begins.

JUDE

Jude, i know what you mean about a person who is so sweet in front of you and talks about everyone else have a nurse that i have to work with every week get a ha wondering what she is up to..so far i have not come under her axe but you can get paranoid just waiting for the boot to fall

I know you did not mean to be a brown-noser,

I know you didn't mean it that way, but that was just TOO funny!:rotfl:

Yes, but she's a nurse. She writes huge letters about work left undone & then mass emails them to all the staff, including management. Usually she has a problem with incomplete charting, yet she is one of those nurses who never really spends any time with the patient. She's more than a little annoying.