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difficult decisions to make

would you all please add my husband and i to your prayer list i had to make an extremely difficult decision tonight my husband has not been doing well at all lately he just got out of the hospital today had been diagnosed with afib, chf, among others i wanted to take care of him at home, the doctor recommended against it but he did write orders for a hospital bed, bedside commode, home health care etc. i had everything in place except for home health -- the worst hits-- he can no longer use his legs and his upper body has no strength left to pull himself up had to get help from the upstairs neighbors to get him out of the bathroom around midnight i had to make a call i did not want to make he is going to require long term care in a nursing facility i made the call tonight the don came and now in the morning he will be either taken to the nursing home or to the hospital by ambulance i feel it is all my fault because i thought i would be able to care for him myself i am now grieving at my loss i feel so lost at what is going to happen to him i wont give more details because it wouldnt be proper i dont know any more but please to any one who thinks you can take responsibility of a loved ones care alone think again thank you god bless for for taking time to read this

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What a rough time you're having, tigger. I know how hard it is not to feel guilty about not being able to do more for someone you love. I went through something like that when my husband died of cancer. Try to think of what you still can do for him, even when he is in a facility. The most valuable thing you can give someone is your time, and your simple presence at his bedside holding his hand will mean more to him than anything else. Bless you, you're in my prayers.

So sorry for your situation- God bless you and I wish you the best as you and your family make your way through this tough situation. Try not to feel guilty- you are only human and can only do so much.

:icon_hug: Will be praying for you & your family! Best thing you can do is to just be there for him!

Your husband will at least know that you tried. Be the best advocate for him you can be in whatever facility he ends up in. Make his environment as homey as possible. Encourage him to get as much rehab as possible in the hopes of eventually getting home. In the meantime my prayers are with you.

You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers!

I'm sorry for the difficult times you are going through. You will be in my prayers also.

May God bless you in this difficult time.

our prayers are with you both. you can still care for him, only you will have the help of staff now, and will not have to do it alone. god bless and give you peace.

My Prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Will keep you both in my thoughts. Hopefully the LTC facility will be very good. You should be able to be with him most of the time, caring for his emotional needs. Let the staff at the facility help you with his physical needs. This may be the best for him...I mean, for you to have more time and energy for his emotional needs. Others can do the physical work, but you can care for his emotions better than anyone.

I'm sorry to hear this, all my best to you and your husband.

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