Dating during school

ArmaniX, MSN, APRN · Jun 4, 2015

Worry about gaining your education and passing nclex. The girls there are not interested in being one of your numbers.

You will potentially be surrounded by beautiful women your entire career. Better now to exhibit great self control then to gain any sort of reputation at work and risk possible harassment.

Red Kryptonite · Jun 4, 2015

The girls there are not interested in being one of your numbers.

This. You're not talking about genuinely liking someone and wanting to take a chance on getting to know her, you're talking like you want to hook up with as many as you can before they realize you're using them.

When you learn to regard women as human beings with hearts, minds, and souls, to be respected, then try dating. Until then, I'm sure your bedroom floor is strewn with tube socks.

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Jun 4, 2015

How many of you guys are dating/hitting on female classmates? Do you find it risky that a bad relationship would lead the women to gang up and freeze you out? There's lot of attractive girls in my program and I'm thinking if I have to think carefully about the one I want to go after as if you only get so many limited attempts before the whole cohort realizes what's going on, haha. Any funny stories?

Focus on your studies & go after flings outside of school.

level1 · Jun 4, 2015

I do respect women. I'm not talking about hooking up so sorry if my post came out that way. I'm trying to find a serious girlfriend and what better place than at my school. I'm not the type to go out to bars/clubs to meet girls so I thought my best shot at finding a decent connection would be in an academic environment. I am by no means a player and just wanted to start a meaningful relationship because I've always put school as my top priority and neglected other aspects of my life. Oh, and though I do intend to focus on NCLEX I'm not too too worried about the rigors of nursing school. So many people go on and on about how tough it is, I'll put in my work, but I ain't scared one bit. Now, my pre-med MCB major, that was a difficult curriculum.

By the way, any guys have input? Seems like women are already attacking my male-minded post.

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Jun 4, 2015

I do respect women. I'm not talking about hooking up so sorry if my post came out that way. I'm trying to find a serious girlfriend and what better place than at my school. I'm not the type to go out to bars/clubs to meet girls so I thought my best shot at finding a decent connection would be in an academic environment. I am by no means a player and just wanted to start a meaningful relationship because I've always put school as my top priority and neglected other aspects of my life. Oh, and though I do intend to focus on NCLEX I'm not too too worried about the rigors of nursing school. So many people go on and on about how tough it is, I'll put in my work, but I ain't scared one bit. Now, my pre-med MCB major, that was a difficult curriculum.
By the way, any guys have input? Seems like women are already attacking my male-minded post.

The first reply was from a guy. I would still focus on school & then worry about relationships after.

**NICU Guy, BSN, RN** · Jun 4, 2015

I am going to a wedding for two of my classmates at the end of the month. It worked out for them, but the problem is if it doesn't work out for you. You will still be spending a lot of time with them in classes and clinicals even though you broke up.

elijahvegas, ASN, RN, EMT-P · Jun 5, 2015

buddy up with the dudes in your class for study groups and stuff so that it really doesn't matter if a portion of the female cohort "freezes you out". our class was fairly large, and decent amount of guys in our class so there were cliques pretty much everywhere. so it wasn't really hard to be able to "work and play" if you catch my drift.

not a lot of things make me feel very awkward, so nothing was a big deal to me unless i was paired 1 on 1 with someone that things didnt work out with. and even then if wasn't hard to focus on coursework over ...the other nonsense.

elijahvegas, ASN, RN, EMT-P · Jun 5, 2015

By the way, any guys have input? Seems like women are already attacking my male-minded post.

yes, youll be hard-pressed to start a topic in seek of a guys point of view without getting bashed in some form or another. I cant tell you how many posts ive read where the OP asks specifically for a guys point of view, only to have women who sometimes aren't even nurses, or are prenursing, and not in that situation, chime in with their 2 cents and absolutely just slay the OP

that one response about the sexual harassment post made me spit my orange juice out of my mouth though. that was priceless

InvisibleDove · Jun 5, 2015

I say go for it! If it doesn't work, try to end it on a good note. I've stayed friends with all my ex Bfs. It might help u succeed in nursing school as you will have the best study buddy and another student to help things sink in. Good luck.

ArrowRN, BSN, RN · Jun 5, 2015

I only know of 1 couple from a previous cohort that ended up getting engaged. I'll advise you to ignore the girls focus on your studies and passing nclex. You would find that many of the girls in your cohort are

1. Already taken/ engaged or soon to be after passing nclex.

2. So focused on studies they don't want a relationship

3. Not interested in dating a nurse

I was already married in nursing school and yes there were lots of beautiful girls but it was not the focus of my day.

Try building some good friendships and keep it at that, let them pursue you...yes the girls do talk about the guys in the cohort as well and from the minute you go after one, they will all know. The dynamics of a serious classromm relationship during nursing school is not something many girls go for.

lilgop · Jun 6, 2015

As someone who actually did this, I would advise you to be careful. I began relationship with a guy in my cohort and it didn't last very long at all. I think all the stress combined with work, and life, and no sleep took its toll. On top of that, remember that you still gotta work with these people until you graduate. Trust me, things can get awkward fast.

However, it can also be fun. While it lasted, it was loads of fun for me and my friend. It definitely made studying more interesting. My advice would be to just be careful, be respectful, act like a nice guy and let whatever happens happen. Good luck, my friend! :)