Classes start 29th...still no support!

ta4616 · Sep 5, 2008

Just want to let you know I kinda feel the way you do. My mom supports me but I don't really have many friends and my boyfriend prefers I stay with the deadend state job I have because it's in a union and the work is fairly easy. I tell him I am miserable here and want to look forward to going to a job. He tells me that I should stick it out for 25 years and retire from here. I hate the job itself (not challenging to the mind at all) and I hate the people I work with (all hipocrites). Plus, I'd like to make a change in my life for the better, I'm 40 and not getting any younger. I know this is going to be a tough road and probably have to do it on my own, but I am willing to make the effort. I'm just starting all this and would like a chat buddy if you don't care, I could cheer you on ....you cheer me on. I think if you feel passionate about something, you should go for it. They won't be the one living your life for the next 60 years. Hey...maybe their jealous of you?

dolphinlover · Sep 5, 2008

Dont feel bad I think we should all pat ourselves on the back for doing something we want to do,instead of what they want us to do.I have no support either but I started my prereqs nobody is gonna tell me I cant do something.It makes me work that much harder at what I want.My parents are deceased,but my husband said I would never start.I have started though it is hard with being out of school for 15 years.We can do this! :specs:

Want2BARN2010 · Sep 5, 2008

thank you both very much for sharing your experiences. i'm glad that i'm not the only one going through this situation...(even though this is a tough one!) it always helps to have someone you can talk to,(ta4616) so no i wouldn't mind being a chat buddy! are you taking classes yet?? & i kind of think you're right...jealousy could have something to do with it, which is sad! (dolphinlover) is this your first year in school?? if so, how do you like it so far?? what type of degree do you plan on obtaining?? lets all work as hard as we can, & prove those who doubt us wrong!! :typing

Trilldayz,RN BSN · Sep 5, 2008

What kind of "friends" try to turn you away from achieving your dreams? :down: I'm not going to tell you to ditch them because you know them personally, but I would be careful around these type of people. Use all the negatives as fuel to get it done, prove them wrong and come back as a satisfied and successful nurse. And besides, some people with their own pessimistic views doubt the visions of others simply because they lack the drive, will-power and sheer guts to do something new and life changing with their own lives. So forget the haters and keep on truckin'. :redbeathe

bitter_sweet · Sep 5, 2008

Hugs to you!

I know how you feel. This summer I was accepted into nursing school (pending completion of my pre-reqs). I told my mom and best friend. Both told me I was crazy for wanting to be a nurse and suggested I not go to nursing school. Due, to this, I haven't told anyone else my intention of completing nursing school. And the one person who would be happy for me (my grandma) and the reason I'm doing this - can't talk (she had a stroke 2 years ago that left her partially paralyzed and unable to speak).

Hence, my screen name (bitter_sweet). I (like you) am so happy to begin this new journey in life, but unfortunately, have no one to support or encourage me either.

But, that's why I love allnurses, we can support each other even when no one else will!

Best of luck to you in everything you do!

penelopelp · Sep 6, 2008

want2barn,

I've had a lot of people who obviously think that I'm nuts for going back to school. They don't understand why I won't just stick with my current career. My bf has been the most supportive of anybody. He really wants me to follow this. He knows how obsessed I am with healthcare (he has to watch all those Discovery Health shows with me!).

You just have to remember that you aren't doing this for anybody else. You are doing this for yourself. The doubters mean nothing. Only you know what you are capable of. If you have the drive, you will do whatever it takes to be successful.

ta4616, I understand where you're coming from. I hate desk jobs. I hate sitting. I hate office work (you get the idea). You have plenty of work life left, and you might as well do something that is meaningful to you!!!! p.s. I moved from Dayton 6 mths ago!

Hanna0225 · Sep 6, 2008

wantobarn,

i recently told friends and my mother in law that i was going to start nursing school and i got nothing but negative feedback from them.

it especially hurts coming from my mil because i have to deal with her on somewhat of a daily basis. anyhow.. i know how you feel, and personally i am not going to mention nursing school to anyone who might ask me what i am studying, since it just puts a damper on your spirits.

at the same time the negative comments do make me want to work harder, stay up extra late to master the material, and always put in extra effort in whatever tasks come my way!

thank goodness for allnurses.com, this site has truly been a blessing in disguise for me. i am so glad that we have each other to turn to when times get rough and challenging!

best wishes to ya :nurse:

ExpatHopeful, LPN, LVN · Sep 6, 2008

My husband is super supportive and is really excited for me but my mother could care less and I think is upset that I'm not pursuing Chinese, which is what she wished she had done years ago. We are pretty close so it's really hurtful to me that despite my being so obviously excited about my applications she never asks any questions about them and just says 'oh' when I talk about it. I wanted her to read over my resume for me and she never responded to my emails until I finally told her how upset I was that she wasn't being supportive. I guess I should just consider myself lucky that my husband is so great about it, but it's still really lame of her and makes me mad. :angryfire

sunray12 · Sep 6, 2008

My husband is super supportive and is really excited for me but my mother could care less and I think is upset that I'm not pursuing Chinese, which is what she wished she had done years ago. We are pretty close so it's really hurtful to me that despite my being so obviously excited about my applications she never asks any questions about them and just says 'oh' when I talk about it. I wanted her to read over my resume for me and she never responded to my emails until I finally told her how upset I was that she wasn't being supportive. I guess I should just consider myself lucky that my husband is so great about it, but it's still really lame of her and makes me mad. :angryfire

If you mean Chinese language wouldn't that be a big asset to go along with a nursing degree? I want to learn Chinese - still looking for someplace I can start studying it for college credit. The cc that offers it as a major in my state is a couple hours away and I'd have to attend classes in person.

I've been watching Discovery Health for years but it was my thing I don't know anybody who got why I watch it :). But all in all my family is supportive and that's what counts. If there are any naysayers I'm not interested in what they have to say.

And why would someone tell another person not to take a course of study because it's hard?? That's why we have brains - to solve problems. Life is hard. That doesn't stop most people from living it.

redhead_NURSE98!, ADN, BSN · Sep 6, 2008

I haven't even TOLD my parents yet. I'm going back to school in January after 8 years of practicing law, and I know they're going to tell me I'm nuts. My husband is nothing but supportive, but a lot of friends have said things like, "But YOU'RE a LAWYER!" as if nursing is somehow beneath me. My response to that is "you've never been a lawyer, have you?" The problem is, these people know how miserable I am in my career and should not be discouraging me! It's only 2 years, for heaven's sake. Besides I plan to combine the two someday by working in risk management or a related position.

ExpatHopeful, LPN, LVN · Sep 8, 2008

:chuckle "you've never been a lawyer, have you?" Oh man that made me laugh.

I totally get you when you say that some of your friends look down on nursing. I think all we can do is look at as an opportunity to educate people about what nurses really do and why nursing is so important. It's a shame that some careers (medicine, law) are so glamorized that most people can't even bring themselves to think about what the job is really like. I think it's like owning a huge house or something. Well it may look great, but what about the heating bills, cleaning the pool, mowing the 3 acres of lawn, etc.

When are you going to tell your parents?

As for Sunray12: "If you mean Chinese language wouldn't that be a big asset to go along with a nursing degree?"

Yes, but I don't think anything short of moving to China permanently or becoming a professor of Chinese would please my mother. Also, it's very hard to keep up language skills if you aren't able to use them every day, which I'm not. Languages are a use it or lose it skill. Anyway, I think knowing Spanish would be more helpful as a nurse then Chinese.