C section info needed - NOT MEDICAL ADVISE

I think the norm is 24-48 hours depending on the patient. It would probably be ok to give her a call and say congrats but I'd wait maybe a week or so after she goes home unless she invites you over.

If it was a really close friend, I'd go over there to help her husband with the house, other children, cooking, etc. if she didn't have a family member helping her. Otherwise, I'd agree with the PP and wait a week or so after sending a fruit basket, card, or something.

My favorite of all baby gifts was the gift of food. You can never go wrong bringing a casserole over and simply handing it over at the door...I know when I had baby 4 I had so many people visit me, some people even visited me TWICE in the hospital. My god I was only there 2 days. I was exhausted--trying to breast feed a sleepy baby and knew i had 3 kids and a husband and dog waiting for me at home...I never visit new moms in the hosp--even my very best friends. Let them rest. You have a life time to see the baby.

On the flip side--that is me and my opinion, if your friend calls and asks you then by all means do, some people need alot of people around them, I do not...

How close you are to her? Are you her BFF, or a coworker, or what? How often do you usually see/speak to each other? Does she have a lot of support people in her life?

For my BFF, I went to the hospital and saw the new family...then went to her house to clean and make a couple of dinners. I hung around a lot to help out because her family was far away, and her husband is one of the clueless types.

For someone I don't know as well, I would send a small congratulatory gift right away (cookie basket, card with GC in it, etc) and then call in a week to check on them. Then I'd wait for an invitation and take them some food and maybe an outfit or keepsake.

Anything in between is good...just depends on the nature of your relationship.

Because of the difficulty of labor and subsequent c-section, I did not want any visitors at the hospital with the exception of my most immediate family. A few people disregarded my wishes, and I, personally, was not appreciative.

What I did appreciate most, was friends who brought food over after baby was finally d/c'ed. I was so appreciative, and at that point, was so happy to have them see the baby.

This is just advice from one of many other people who have BTDT.

Ok. she had the baby yesterday (friday) I will probably CALL her on monday and ASK her "are you up to having me visit" at that point she will probably be out of the hospital and it also gives her the chance to say "you know, I would perfer you to wait a few more days" what do you guys think of that idea?

For me, I had to say 4 days.(both times) When I got home I was very sore. My friends came to see the baby 2 days post going home. The best gift is food, food, food for the family. If it is a close friend she will be very thankful for you....

I called her this morning just to say hi and see how she was "you know you can come visit right" so I am going in to the hospital after work. YAY!!!!!!!!!! I am SO excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

she is the cutest thing ever

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. She's so pretty.